Day 581 - Dec 31, 2009

Happy New Year! I trust everyone had a great (and safe) night!

Today we spent quite a few hours at the VA hospital trying to figure out what is causing the pain. Kevin had to get an IV and have a contrast CT scan and it showed he has a small amount of fluid buildup, but we don't think it's causing the pain. I did ask and the fluid is on top of the plate, which is a good thing (I think).

We also had Infectious Disease take a look at the spot on his head and the doctor has no idea what it is. In the last few days it has formed a crust on top of it, so I am considering seeing a dermatologist. I need to talk to Mary about whether that's the route to take or see a burn doctor or what.

In the interim, I have made appts with a new neurosurgeon, but it's not until Feb 10 and I have also made an appt with a neuropsychologist on Jan 29 to help with the depression and also hopefully with cognitive rehab. I look forward to seeing what these two new docs can do for us.

And after all of this, Kevin and I went for a bike ride tonight. It was a beautiful day here today and I am determined to get him exercising to help him tone up and lose some weight. And let's face it - it won't hurt me either, lol.

And now I need to get my macaroni salad made. I want to cook out tomorrow night and mac salad tastes so much better the next day...

Day 580 - Dec 30, 2009

Kevin allowed Parshall to take him to therapy today - YAY! He had two therapies back to back so they were gone about 2 hours or so. Amazing!!! Parshall said it went really well and he was in a good mood when he got home so this may be a new pattern. Not every day, mind you, but it's a start.

And in even bigger news (can you imagine?!) - Kevin has been starting to say sentences. Today he started saying "shut the door" and "open the door". These are major things because it is VERY difficult for him to string words together. Now if we could just get him to understand the difference between open and shut it would make my job easier a couple of times a night. I don't know why, but he just can't comprehend the differences between the words open and shut and the words hot and cold.

So anyway, it wouldn't surprise me if he can talk somewhat well by this time next year. I sure hope so! This is the part that is most frustrating and devastating. Just not being able to be heard when you need to say something has to be so rough. And not being able to understand when someone is trying to tell you something is just as bad!

So that's about it for today. We did run to Lowes again because the handyman is going to install lights in the spare bedrooms as there are none and I also picked up some of the cat doors just so I can move the kitty litter to the garage. I have opted not to put one in Kevin's door because he has been leaving it open a crack and I prefer that than it being shut all the time.

Before I sign off - Long-Time RN - Kevin just decided to keep the cat named Princess. I don't think he has the cognitive ability to think up a new name. He really calls it Meow anyway, lol.

And I THINK he understands the reasoning behind the dieting, but he just doesn't care. He wants food and that's all there is to it, lol!

Day 579 - Dec 29, 2009

Kevin and I are kinda fighting tonight. His eating habits are totally out of control. He weighs almost 180 pounds and I am putting him on a diet. He's not liking it though - not at all - but if I start slow I am hoping it won't be too bad. So after eating two burgers, 2 bowls of ice cream, 4 pop tarts and some peanut butter toast, he isn't allowed to have any more. He is so mad he just stomped to his room and slammed the door. I really hate to do this, but he is putting too much weight on way too fast. It's going to affect everything from his good leg not being able to carry his weight to his sugar level.

Looks like life is gonna be rough for a little bit.

Truthfully, we didn't really do much today. We only have therapy Mon and Wed this week, so I had planned to go to a movie and leave Kevin with his aide. Unfortunately, when I got to the theater the line was a mile long and there was nowhere to park so I just took a drive to an area I had never been before and then came back home. I just plain forgot the kids are all home from school this week so I will wait until next week. There are so many movies that I want to see right now, but my main goal is Avatar in 3D and I am determined to see it.

And that's pretty much it, so I guess I'll go and read some of my book. Before I do though - Tracey in PGH - no, I wasn't aware that a photo of Breezy and Kevin was in the Post-Gazette on Sunday. If it's the picture I think it is, it is my absolute favorite. Mike and Rebecca (reporter, photographer, from the PPG - such wonderful people!) just sent me some of the photos they had taken for the paper and there was an 8x10 of that photo in the pile. I just sat and cried when I opened the envelope and saw it. It's really such a bittersweet photo, huh? It really shows how much the two of them love each other, yet it also plainly shows how severe Kevin's injuries are. Mostly I don't see what he looks like anymore, but sometimes a photo shows it and it always comes as a shock to me. It's kinda like when (once in a while) I catch a glimpse of Kevin out of the corner of my eye and I gasp! I think "Oh my God! Look what happened to my son!" It's all I can do in those moments to hide what I am seeing/feeling. I usually run upstairs and just cry when I see the truth so boldly. Thank goodness I don't see it often, eh? I'd be a blubbering mess. And let's be honest - no matter how lucky Kevin is to be alive, he still had a horrific thing happen to him that has left scars, both physically and mentally, that will never go away.

The poor kid...

Day 578 - Dec 28, 2009

Things returned to normal today. Kevin had speech and physical therapy and he did really well for both. He even did a full hour of physical therapy which I wasn't sure he would be able to do with this ankle. Truthfully, he has been walking the way he was and he hasn't complained at all of any pain in his ankle for a long time now, but I have still been kinda babying it.

And we have an appt on Thursday because Kevin has been having a lot of pain behind his left eye. I don't know if a piece of the filler that they used to fill in his head might have shifted or if it's just something simple or what. He has this dark spot on his head that started out at about the size of an eraser back when we were still in TX and is now up to the size of a quarter. It's very soft there and it's obvious that there is something wonky going on. I just hope it's something minor. I don't know if either one of us have the energy yet to deal with anything major.

But to get to some happier thoughts, Kevin was so excited to get Christmas cards from everyone this year. I know he enjoyed it last year too, but he is so much more aware this year that I was able to take some photos of him opening and reading the ones that the two classes sent him this year. I hope they somehow see how excited he was to read them - and he looked at every single one! He also got quite a few from others and they are all proudly displayed throughout the kitchen/living room. I can't stress enough how much he loved receiving these. Thanks everyone!





And now I am going to go scrap for a little while. Kevin's still raring to go so it will be a while before I get to bed...

Day 577 - Dec 27, 2009

We had a pretty good day today. I took Breezy back to the airport this morning and Kevin was waiting for me when I got home with my nephew and Tyler to go for a bike ride. My sister and mom had stayed with him while I ran Breeze downtown and they were all chomping at the bit to ride.

I did limit Kevin, but it was hard. He just loves to ride his bike and so far he isn't complaining of his ankle. We'll see for sure tomorrow if it hurts though. The last time he had no pain until the next day.

So anyway, here are some pics of the riding:

This one cracks me up. The boys and my sister took off and Kevin turned around and saw that Kim didn't have a helmet on. He made her stop, walk back to the house and get a helmet. She wasn't even allowed to ride the bike back. I laughed so hard.


This one is Kim and Kevin racing to the house:


And here is Kevin winning. Look at the joy on his face!



After this, Kevin and I watched an old movie - "Smokey and the Bandit" and we even both took a nap afterward. Then we just had leftovers for dinner and retreated to our separate spaces.

All in all a pretty nice day!

Day 576 - Dec 26, 2009

Phew! Aren't you glad it's all over with?

Obviously, the last few days have been really hectic. For everyone, I assume. We had all our Christmases and Kevin really scored big this year. An organization located in Western PA called me and offered to buy Kevin something that just wasn't in my budget for him for Christmas (they thought we lived in PA and were kinda stunned to learn we were in FL). I asked for a TV because he only had a small one in his bedroom and wow - how excited he was to get a large flat screen! And what a difference it makes in him being able to read the guide. He has been so excited and now I find we are all laying in his bed to watch movies because the living room furniture we have isn't the most comfortable and his bed is the softest I have ever felt. So really - the gift ended up being for both of us, lol.

Today was really a day of rest and relaxation. Kevin and I did nothing, Breezy did a little bit of running. I scrapped for a while tonight and left the kids to do whatever - it was so nice not to have to run up and the down the stairs a hundred times, lol.

I think I am going to try to get to some of the comments tonight as I am really behind.

Ann Lalli - I am so glad you all are in OH for the holidays. When will you be back down in FL? You MUST all come for dinner! We miss you guys!

Jessica - how is your grandpa doing? I hope he is feeling ok. I also am very sorry to hear about your cat. My thoughts are with you!

Jan - I know, we say soda. How strange is that, huh? I have moved so often that I pick up whatever accent from wherever I am at the moment. I still say pop quite often, but Kevin found it too difficult to say and soda came out rather easily so...

Miss Em - I have thought about PTSD quite often throughout the last few months. It's so hard to distinguish the difference between that and TBI as so many of the PTSD symptoms are also TBI symptoms. Did I read that the only difference is that TBI can cause nauseousness and PTSD doesn't? There's something - just one symptom - that sets one apart from the other. Wait - Mary (our wonderful FRC) - was it you that told me about this? I know we have discussed this...

Wife of a Wounded Soldier - I completely hear everything you are saying about how similar our circumstances are. If I am not mistaken - I believe you emailed me a while back and you are the reason I am seriously considering hyperbaric treatments. I am curious if you feel they still have worked? I keep going back and forth on this. (and to Leslie A. - thanks for the info on this treatment too)

I think I am going to end here and spend some time with Breezy. She has to go back to TX tomorrow so I want to help her get packed.

Day 575 - Dec 25, 2009

I hope everyone had a great Christmas! We did.

I am going to skip again tonight. Sorry for doing it two nights in a row, but it's almost 4am and I think Kevin is finally sleeping long enough that I want to try to get a bit of sleep myself.

I am going to leave you with two pictures of us swimming. I admit it was kinda chilly here today (60ish), but we were all determined to swim on Christmas day as it's something you definitely can't do in Pennsy.

So anyway, the first is Kevin:



This one is Kevin, Breezy, Michael (my nephew), Tyler (the boy across the street), myself and my mom:


And that's about it today. I will share more tomorrow!

Day 574 - Dec 24, 2009

Totally not going to write anything tonight. The kids and I are going to make some popcorn and watch a movie.

Kevin, Breezy and I want to wish you all a very, Merry Christmas!

Day 573 - Dec 23, 2009

Today was such a long day. We actually had our big family Christmas today because my niece has to work both Christmas Eve and Day.

So Kevin and I ran to the airport to pick Breezy up and when we got back we all had pizza and then we opened gifts. After that we decorated Christmas cookies, but by then Kevin was exhausted and he passed on the decorating.

It was really a nice day and it's so nice having my baby home - even if it is only for 4 days!

So I am just going to leave you with a bunch of photos:

This first one is Kevin just being his normal goofball self. He loves this wig and I always tell him if it were blonde he would just look like Garth from Wayne's World. True, huh?


This one is Kevin with Anne (my brother in law's mom):


This one is my dad, Breezy, Michael and Chrissy:


Kevin, my dad and my mom:


And here is Kevin with a "Kevin's Bar" shotglass.


Kevin with his "Boondock Saints" t-shirt.


Breezy - just being silly.


Chrissy, my mom and Breezy:


My nephew Michael was hiding under a mound of wrapping paper and I snuck under with my camera and snapped a shot:


The next 2 are of us decorating cookies. You can tell it's a pretty serious event in our family, lol. (actually - anything pertaining to food is a pretty serious event)


And to all the members of The Herd - check out my dad's sweatshirt! Kevin got a big grin when he saw that on my dad today:


And this is Breezy and I:


And last - Kevin reaping all the benefits of completed cookies!


Sorry for posting so many, but we have family back in PA that we want to share these with.

Day 572 - Dec 22, 2009

First, I gotta tell you that Kevin truly did that scrapbook layout all by himself. He is just like his mama and REALLY anal about exact placements. As I was attaching the photos with glue dots, I didn't do it right and it took forever to get them exactly where he wanted them. It was kinda hilarious.

So I also have to tell you that Kevin said a whole slew of new words in the last few days. I was on the phone the other night (Hi Linda!) and he called me downstairs to say 'star'. He was watching Family Guy and the woman was putting the star on the tree. He just said it - without any teaching involved.

Today he came out with Pap (my dad), I love you, Pap (very hard for him to get words together that are a new combination), eat, cookie, Josh (my niece Chrissy's boyfriend), Dawn (my other sister), Kammerdiener (ok - so that doesn't sound exact, but it's way close enough, lol), lights and hold on. He is trying to repeat things often now and he is even singing as best he can whenever the radio is on and he knows the song. You should hear him sing 'Happy Birthday' - he does it so well! If I could ever find the cord to my video camera, I will take some videos. It's been so long, but I haven't seen it since we moved from the Fisher House.

We did have speech therapy yesterday too, but Kevin was really mad. I guess the therapist spent almost the whole time writing notes. He also talked real slow and Kevin feels he is talking down to him. The one thing I don't do is slow it down. We talk normal and I only emphasize words when he is struggling to learn them. I talked to the therapist after I had Kevin leave the room, and I talked to Kevin on the way home because I know it's how you teach stroke patients, so hopefully they can meet in the middle. I just don't want Kevin to get so mad that he won't go back, kwim?

And lastly, I want to thank everyone for the well wishes for my dad. It's just not good. He has the option of either doing nothing and allowing the cancer to take over, or having surgery knowing that the odds are better that he won't make it through either the surgery itself or the recovery. They don't feel he is healthy enough to handle it.

So it's a decision my father must make and we all need to accept whichever he chooses. I do have to say though that it will be a less rosy world without my dad in it - even if he does drive me nuts sometimes.

Ah well, I don't want to get all maudlin, I'm sure it will all work out...

Day 571 - Dec 21, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight. To be honest, my dad didn't get good news from the surgeon today and I just don't feel like writing. I will leave you with the pic I promised of Kevin's layout though:

Day 570 - Dec 20, 2009

We didn't leave the house again today and it was so nice. My family came down for dinner (they pretty much always come here because Kevin can 'get away' from everyone by going to his room).

Kevin and I scrapbooked for quite a while tonight. If it's sunny tomorrow, I will take a photo of his layout and post it here. Darn if he didn't pick 3 of my favorite pictures too, lol. I sure wasn't saying anything though because it's always so nice to have him out of his room.

And that's really about it. Somehow I hurt my ankle while at Disney and it has been very swollen since then. At times I can barely walk on it and right now is one of those times. It hurts like the dickens. I hope it feels better tomorrow because we finally go back to therapy. He only has speech though so it won't be too bad.

I can't wait to see what his therapist says about all of his new words. He learned 'soda' last night. If I got them all listed, he is up to 52 words. Hurray!!

And for all you cat lovers out there, I am going to leave you with a photo of Kevin with his cat:

Day 569 - Dec 19, 2009

I still am not feeling quite up to par, but I do feel better than yesterday. Kevin is feeling fine now - thank goodness.

We didn't do much today. We had to go to Lowes and purchase the materials to have a fence put up on one side of the house. They are building a house very close to ours and I just don't want our neighbors to 'be' in our yard. I also don't want them watching Kevin while he is swimming, so we are just going to fence that side in.

My sister met a guy that does handyman work and he gave us an excellent price to install it - less than half of what a fence company wanted to do the same job! He is also going to change those light bulbs that I can't reach and do a few other minor things. One thing is that Kevin has pulled the banister out of the wall going upstairs because he actually 'pulls' himself up the steps instead of walks up them. That is one thing that really needs taken care of.

Other than that, we didn't do much of anything today. I am hoping I feel completely better by tomorrow as the next week will be hectic. Breezy will be coming home on Wednesday and we have lots to do both before and after she gets here. Can't wait to see her though!

Day 568 - Dec 18, 2009

It's 3am and Kevin and I are in the midst of a UNO tournament, lol. Neither one of us has been feeling good today, but he is starting to feel better. I'm really not, but I either keep him entertained or I jump up and down 30 times an hour. I am opting to keep him entertained.

So hopefully the tourney ends soon and he will go to bed. In the interim, I am going to skip writing tonight so I can continue playing.

Day 567 - Dec 17, 2009

Kevin has been in a grumpy mood the bulk of today. He was so angry earlier (and I have no idea why?!) that he went into his room, locked the door and barricaded it with his wheelchair. I had to go around to his french doors to get into his room - luckily I left them unlocked earlier today. I do try to respect his privacy, but only to a point. I tell him he can't abuse my trust, but I don't think he understands what that means.

So anyway, I finally grabbed a few of my scrapbooks and we lay on his bed and just looked through them. A lot of the old photos of him and the rest of us while we were younger made him finally smile and even laugh a few times.

I just wish I knew why he was in such a mood today. Who knows...I guess we've all woken up on the wrong side of the bed and maybe that's just all it was. Tomorrow will tell, I suppose...

Day 566 - Dec 16, 2009

We are back home. We got here this afternoon. We didn't do much today. My family came down and I made a huge pan of lasagna and that's about it.

Before I forgot - Linda from the glass plant - can you email me your phone number? My email is lesliekamm@live.com

And Hallie - I agree that we are heading toward a more normal existence.

And I have to say that not for one minute do I ever forget what a miracle it is that we CAN even attempt to do things like go to Disney World. I will always have it in the back of my mind what he was like a year ago or even six months ago. Heck, three months ago I would have never thought to make any plans to go to a resort. Truthfully, he wouldn't have even thought of going himself a few months ago.

But he HAS come so far and we are getting there. I believe the day will come when we can go somewhere like this and have a good time. This was just the first try and I can pretty much guarantee it won't be the last.

And It really is amazing how far he has come. I know you guys don't have a 'clear' picture (mostly because you are only hearing a few parts of our day), but Kevin makes many decisions a day now and he rarely gets overstimulated anymore. It's mostly only extreme events - which is why I thought we might be able to do this Disney thing.

Talking about this just made me realize that I haven't seen the glazed look in Kevin's eyes in a long time. The one that says he is shutting down mentally. Yippee!

But, this is not to say that he doesn't still have confusing moments - he does. And he still struggles with directions and definitely with knowing objects. But when you compare him to a year ago - he is a whole new person. A true miracle!

And we are just going to keep cultivating that miracle. Who knows where it'll go, but I suspect so much more is in the works...

Day 565 - Dec 15, 2009

Well, it didn't work out. I was worried it wouldn't, but Kevin saw the commercial and wanted to come. I thought maybe...just maybe...but no go.

We got here and by the time we got all checked in he was overstimulated. So we rested for a while and then went over to the park. By the time we rode the very noisy bus and then stood in line to get the tickets, that was it. We came back to the room for a long time. At about 8pm, we attempted to go to the Christmas party, but you couldn't even move walking without hitting people so there was just no way with a wheelchair. He was angry because people were stepping on him and kicking him and hitting him so we just got back on the bus and went back to our resort and had dinner there. All total - we spent 15 minutes inside Disney World.

We were supposed to stay another night, but we are just going home tomorrow instead. No sense being here when we aren't going into the park.

So...no pictures.

I have to say that it is very disappointing. We are so close and I had such high hopes that he would do well and we would have a great time. The clerk (when I was returning my ticket because we never used it) told me that the deadest time to come is the last two weeks of November. I am going to keep that in the back of my mind and maybe next year we will try again.

Day 564 - Dec 14, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight. I am just so tired and still am doing laundry and packing things for our trip tomorrow.

Hopefully Kevin will enjoy the Christmas party and I will have lots of pictures for tomorrow!

Wish us luck!

Day 563 - Dec 13, 2009

We finally made it to exchange Kevin's jeans for a larger size. We went to the outlet mall (where we actually bought them) instead of the normal mall as it's open and less hectic. It was a beautiful day here so it was nice being out and about.

I hope this weather stays nice because we have something exciting on target for this week. We are going to Disney World on Tuesday for Mickey's Christmas Party. Military personnel get a free 5 day pass and they also get a massive deal on rooms, so we are going for 2 nights. Kevin is actually really excited. We keep looking at the website and watching the videos and he just can't wait.

This will be our first time doing something like this and I admit I am scared a little. I don't know how well he will handle it - both the crowds and the stimulation around him - but I guess we'll find out. I also don't know how he will like not being able to ride anything. He has been handling things so much better lately so maybe none of it will matter.

Wish us luck. I just want him to have a good time...

Day 562 - Dec 12, 2009

We didn't really do anything today so I am just going to get to a few more questions...

Alison - yes, we will be in Florida for Christmas. I hope to be here for a while (a few months anyway)

Miss Em - you asked if the cat helps Kevin when he is in one of his moods and mostly the answer is "no". Usually Kevin just shuts and locks his door when he is upset and this means the cat can't be in there.

I will say that the cat does sleep with Kevin nearly every night now and she is usually found in his room. Thank goodness. Kevin really does get the cutest smile when she comes in though.

Hallie - I think it's sad that you worked at the same gov't job for 25 years and got your pin in the inter-office mail. Doesn't the government (and corporate America truly) realize that you get so much more out of people when you recognize their effort and time spent? Honestly - where did all the respect go? And Hallie...I congratulate you on your 25 years!

Sgt Social Worker - I checked into Project Victory for Kevin a while ago. I am leaning toward another place, but haven't fully made up my mind yet. Thanks for the website though!

And that's it for tonight. Going to go scrap for a while.

Day 561 - Dec 11, 2009

Today we intended to go to the mall to exchange the jeans we bought Kevin a couple of weeks ago to yet the next size. They were too tight when we got them, we just never had the time to return them.

So we drove over and when it took us almost 20 minutes to drive a half mile around the mall, we just went home. There is no way we are going into that mess, lol.

Other than that, we did nothing today. It was kinda yucky here so it was one of those days to just stay in and veg. I took a long nap this evening - I have just been so tired - and I vaguely remember Kevin getting up and turning the lights off in the living room (where I was napping) and I think I even heard him whisper "I love you, Mom" which is just so dang cute, huh?

I am going to answer just a few more of the questions and then head to bed.

First, thanks to Ida and Long Time RN for the UV Block clothing suggestions. We already ordered a few Solumbra pieces a long time ago and the VA purchased a few items from Dick's Sporting Goods too, but Kevin won't wear any of it. It's been ok to start doing small doses of sunlight to start having his skin adjust to it, but we aren't usually outside for any length of time. We also use 65 spf sunblock too.

Tracey from PGH - I wish I knew how Kevin could handle listening to heavy metal, but in all honesty, he doesn't do it much. He still rarely listens to the music in the car, but he was able to handle the concert in SA? It doesn't make sense to me at all. The only thing is that the concert was outside and maybe that makes a difference? Sometimes sound in an enclosed area is just so much more enveloping.

(oh and Tracey - we got our decorations at Home Depot)

Mary - I thought about taking Kevin to see the concert (TSO), but I asked and he said 'no'. I'm glad now because all of the lights could have caused a seizure. It's one of the things we need to be careful of with the brain damage. Normal lights would be ok, but the strobe and lasers in a close space might be scary.

And I forgot to mention that Kevin has been saying some new words lately. He has learned:

One
Two
Fan

Those three are the fan and the speeds in which he wants it on. I don't allow him to use his fingers to tell me which speed - he has to say it.

Open
Shut
tree

He has been trying to pick up some new words a lot lately. Both Breezy and I tell him that that part of the brain must be reconnecting. One nice thing (and possibly helpful) is that he and Breezy probably talk at least an hour a day on the phone.

Ok - off to bed for me!

Day 560 - Dec 10, 2009

Kevin can now cut his own food! Yay!! When we were in Texas, the therapists there made a list of aids that Kevin could utilize to become more independent. We got them in the mail this week and one of the things was a sharp half circle blade that rocks back and forth. It cuts whatever Kevin wants to eat and he does it all by himself. He was so excited when he could cut his meat tonight and it allows me to finally eat hot food! I need to go online and order another one (or two) and keep one in my purse for those times we eat at my parents or at a restaurant.

Other than that, I don't really have anything to say. My family came down for dinner tonight and they brought the baby. Here are a couple of photos of Kevin with the baby again:




He sure loves kids...

And speaking of kids, Jessica - you asked if your sister's class could make cards for Kevin and we would love that! We had quite a few classes do this for Kevin last year and Kevin enjoyed it. He is much more aware this year than last so I think it will be even more fun for him. Tell her 'thanks' in advance!

And now I am going to play Wii for a little while. It's becoming a family event. When everyone's here - we all play (even Kevin). So I gotta practice as my nephew is pretty good, lol.

Day 559 - Dec 9, 2009

I'm not really going to write anything tonight. I left Kevin for the whole afternoon with his aide and he has been unbearable tonight. I am just too tired to think coherently enough to post anything that would make sense. Sorry!

Day 558 - Dec 8, 2009

Kevin and I finally made it to the movies this afternoon. We went to see "Old Dogs" and we were very disappointed. He wanted to leave 20 minutes into it, but I told him that we had to stay that it would get better. The ending was good, and maybe a few parts in between, but we weren't impressed. (although I did enjoy seeing old photos of John Travolta back when he was Vinnie Barbarino - remember that? Oh that hair...)

Oh and Breezy swears up and down Chris's hand isn't where we think it is, lol. I say photos don't lie though.

I am just going to get to a few more questions because we didn't really do anything else today.

A few of you have suggested Melatonin as a natural sleep supplement. At this point I won't give Kevin anything without the pain management docs input. I will try to remember to mention it to her when we go back in January.

And along those lines - Cathy M, you asked if the docs had ever told us about Kevin's wake/sleep portion of his brain. I didn't know there was such a thing, and I can assure you that we weren't told about anything other than his speech/language center. When Kevin was first injured (while we were at BAMC) I couldn't get the neurosurgeon to look at me, more or less to talk to me. He really didn't tell us anything except that Kevin would never be much of anything, and that was if he woke up.

I am hoping the new neurosurgeon we are planning to go to can give me a little more guidance.

Anne - I would have never known that underguchies was Pittsburghese. That list cracked me up.

Jan - you asked if Kev was a Pittsburgh Penguins fan and the answer is 'no'. He never got into hockey.

Ok - I will get to some more tomorrow night.

Day 557 - Dec 7, 2009

We didn't really do much today. Kevin and his aide Parshall are getting along really well now and I am able to run and do errands pretty much when I need to. He still gets upset when I am gone for long periods of time, but a half hour here or there seems to be ok. This is a baby step toward getting Kevin ready for the rehab center to teach him independence. It will be months yet before he is ready, but the time will come eventually.

And check this photo out:



Breezy met a really nice guy over Thanksgiving and they are 'dating' now. She seems very happy and I am so glad. He is a soldier from up at Ft Hood, but is discharging from the Army next summer. I do think he needs to move his hand a little further to the right though, don't you? LOL!

And here is a daytime photo of our outdoor decorations:



I couldn't get Kevin to stay outside long enough to get a photo with him in it. He is starting to walk again, but his ankle still hurts some and it's just too uneven in the yard for him to be standing long.

So I have a TON of comments/questions to answer and I want to get to a few tonight:

Jodi and Jessica - before I forget - Kevin LOVES his shot glasses! He shows everyone that comes to visit and they are displayed next to his bed on his night stand.

Mel Birdwell - HI! I didn't realize you were still reading! So you had asked if there had been any follow-up after my talk in DC and there was a little bit in the beginning, but when Kevin's surgery went awry, I wasn't really available. There was to be an opportunity for me to speak to the President's advisers, but I think the opportunity was lost due to us not being home for 2 months. It's a bummer, but that's the way it goes, I guess. I trust you and Brian are doing well?

To 10:10 (lol) - I tried a week or so ago to teach Kevin my phone number, but he just couldn't do it. I thought he knew his numbers because he can do addition and basic math, but when I told him to touch a certain number, he had no idea what the numbers were. We worked on it for a little while, but then he got disgusted and it became apparent to me that it wasn't going to work.

Jenna - thanks so much for letting me know about the caregiver's bill passing. For those that want to read about it, read the comment at 8:23am on Nov 25, 2009.

Denver - great idea about putting putty over the light on the smoke detector! Why didn't I think of that...

Alison - I do want to have Botox injected into Kevin's hand the next time he has surgery. I know he would have to go back to therapy once it's injected, but it would be worth it if the hand could stay open and not be clenched so tightly all the time.

And I think this is enough for tonight. I still have MANY more to do, but I'll get to them eventually. Just know that I read every single one and always take what is said into consideration.

You guys are like family by now, lol...

Day 556 - Dec 6, 2009

My sister and I went to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra tonight and it was AWESOME!! This is a must-see show as far as I am concerned. There was a surprise guest too - Joe Walsh came out and played a couple of his past hits and he rocked the house. Truly phenomenal!

My mom stayed home with Kevin while we went. He had her get up like 50 times while we were gone and she looked whooped when we got home. Thanks Mom! I know it's hard, but I appreciate it!

And my mom and sister built all of Kevin's yard decorations today. They look cute. We put them out this afternoon and I will try to remember to take a picture tomorrow night with Kevin out there. Kevin's face was really excited when he was helping us put them up.

And now I am off to bed.

Day 555 - Dec 5, 2009

Princess is finally sleeping in Kevin's room! Thank goodness! Kevin is leaving his door open a couple of inches so that the animal can get out and so far, so good. I did discuss putting in the pet door and he liked that idea. Now I just need to find someone to do it. I need to find a handy-man anyway. There are so many things that need done.

And Kevin got his retirement flag in the mail today. I have to say that I think it should have been presented to him. I mean geez...they send his Purple Heart in the mail and now they send his flag too. Oh well, it's been like that since he got wounded so I shouldn't be surprised. Do you know that we have seen NO ONE from his unit since we came to FL? (with the exception of Rigney at the PH ceremony and he had to pay his own way from Germany!) Not one visitor from the 173rd. I think that's sad. Ah well...I guess it just doesn't matter now, does it?

So I did figure out why the country is so broke. It's paper. Yep. Good old mail from every government agency. I have been in our den for 4 hours now opening mail. I hadn't even gotten it all opened from all the previous trips and now I have the last two months added on to it. Let me tell ya though - NUMEROUS copies of the same letter from the VA, NUMEROUS copies of the same letter from the Army and NUMEROUS copies of the same letter and pamphlets on how to get a job from SSI/Disability. It is no wonder our debt is so high. Between the paper and the postage...unbelievable!

But anyway, I got about half of it done. There is just so much mail in there. A lot of it is just junk from when you buy a house, but you have to open all of it just in case.

And other than that we didn't do much today. We did go to Home Depot to look at Christmas decorations and there I was looking at the pretty angels and the deer lawn ornaments and Kevin spotted these penguins in a blimp and that was it - he had to have it! I sometimes forget that he isn't always 21 mentally because I am seeing the child less often, but then he goes nuts over children's decorations and it reminds me. So yes, we have penguins for our front yard, lol. If I can ever get them put together and placed outside, I will post a picture. I know Kevin will be one excited little boy/man. Hopefully I can get it done tomorrow...

Day 554 - Dec 4, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight because Kevin and I are playing on the Wii.

He's creaming me, darnit!

Day 553 - Dec 3, 2009

I met with the therapist today to discuss whether OT is really necessary and she pretty much agreed that Kevin is not really going to ever regain any real use of his right arm/hand. We feel that speech and PT are still pretty vital, (although he can't have PT until he can bear weight on that left leg), so we are going to continue those two, but discontinue OT. I hope I'm making the right decision. I worry about taking any chance away, but if I'm honest with myself - there really doesn't seem to be much of a chance.

However, we are going to try to order a robotic arm that will do therapy on it while Kevin is home. This will keep the spasms somewhat in check and who knows...maybe it will make a difference.

So this will take us down to having therapy only 3 days a week for two hours a day. I still would love it if we could get either speech or PT to come to the house as that would free up even more time. But we need to get this retirement really settled first before trying for anything else. I know Kev was supposed to be retired on Sat, but I'm not sure if it really happened? Various people have told me there was a glitch? Who knows...

So I am going to end with some photos. I promise Kevin is dressed in the first one. He's just in his underguchies, lol.




And we decorated our tree today. We took a long drive around our development this evening looking at Christmas lights too. Kevin told me he wants to decorate our house with lights, but I have never done that before. Gonna have to really scope out how high I would have to go up the ladder first. I'm not big on heights...



And now I am hoping to go to bed. I don't think Kevin ever went to sleep last night. I finally went to bed at 7:00 this morning and when I woke back up at 8:30 he was still awake. He didn't nap yesterday and he didn't nap today either, so hopefully he goes to sleep soon. It's already 2am though and he's wide awake so I'm not sure. I just don't know how he does it. I guess it's nothing he's trying to do though - I know it frustrates him to no end when he can't sleep. Poor thing...

Day 552 - Dec 2, 2009

Kevin had a very good day today. Before I get into it though, I want to first ask y'all to (PLEASE) ignore the post from Tim and Beth (the one that just came in tracked back to Indiana PA - where they live). It really doesn't matter to me if they think I am sending Kev away for a break by sending him to that facility that teaches independence - it just shows their ignorance in the situation.

So anyway, today was my dad's birthday and we had a little get together this evening. When they arrived, they walked in with a little surprise. Here are some photos:





Yep. My mom is now babysitting for her neighbor and Kevin's eyes just lit right up when he saw that baby. He always did love kids and I am so glad that that is still true. Luckily this one is a pretty good (quiet) baby so we didn't have any noise issues, lol.

And we went do MacDill today and got his ID all taken care of. One issue down - many more to go.

And that cat. Y'all know who it ended up sleeping with, right? I mean, Kevin keeps his door shut so where else would it end up but next to my head? Yuk. I hope you guys are right and that it will grow on me. (and I will say that I don't hate it - I just don't like it).

And to Sherri L, who wrote me this email:

1st--- NO ANIMALS
2nd---well, ok.....this cute little kitty

ya know whats next don't ya?

3rd----here puppy puppy!!!!!!!

FORGET IT! There will never be a puppy, lol!!! I mighta caved on this one, but that's as far as it goes, :-)

Kevin is loving it though. The cat is leery of the wheelchair yet, but I am trying to get it to (as often as possible) be near Kevin. Kevin has a piece of ribbon that's about 10 foot long that he keeps dangling next to his bed to keep the cat entertained in his room. I told Kev that if he wants it to sleep with him he would have to leave his door open at night. We'll see how that goes. Kevin can't tolerate any light (he even wanted me to take the batteries out of the smoke detector because of the little green light - and yes, he knew to take out the batteries - but I did draw the line at that). So anyway, I doubt he'll do it because there are all kinds of little lights in the kitchen off of his room, but we'll see. He does really enjoy that cat...

As to the name, Kevin says just to call it Princess after all. At first he said "Steelers", but he changed his mind. He calls it meow anyway. He says "MOM...meow, meow, meow" which is him asking where the cat is, lol.

And before I go, thanks everyone for all of the advice on the cat issue. I'll make this work...

Day 551 - Dec 1, 2009

A couple of things happened today. First, I left Kevin with his aide for over 4 hours and went shopping. I did the bulk of our shopping and it felt great to get away for a few hours. I would love to do this at least once a week, but I have said I would so many times and I never force myself to go so we shall see...

Second, and y'all better sit down for this one - I got Kevin a cat. To those of you that know me, I'm sure you have each grasped your chest in near heart failure, but I assure you - I did it. Here's a picture as proof:



It doesn't really have a name yet. They called it Princess at the shelter, but I just can't see Kevin having a cat named Princess. I think we are going to have to name it one of the words Kevin can say so I am guessing "NO", hehe. It's what I have been screaming at it all night so it probably already thinks that's it's name anyway, lol.

So anyway, it's a fully grown cat, already litterbox trained and very affectionate. Kevin's face just lit up like a Christmas tree when I walked into his room with it, so it's probably worth it (I will agree or disagree after it's been here a little bit longer, lol)

And third, I made an appointment with Kevin's therapists for Thursday and we are going to discuss what he really needs vs what we have been doing all this time.

I agree with everyone that a change needs to be made. We have to start having some fun, but first we need to have the energy to do so. This means eliminating some of the things on the list and only doing what we need to do for a little bit.

I guess we'll see what the therapists have to say and go from there...

Day 550 - Nov 30, 2009

Well the surgeon's appt didn't come off as great news. (Ann - we got Dr Bernard; one of the guys you mentioned!). The doc told us that Kevin has multiple fractures and he figures that some (if not all) of it had never healed from the original date of injury.

Anyway, he said that Kevin's ankle bone has about 1/3 of the bone fractured off of the rest of the bone. There are also many other smaller fractures. Any of these can be causing pain and he suggested that we just let it go for a few weeks and see what happens.

He told us to let Kevin walk and do whatever because no amount of staying off of it is going to fix the issue. He told us that Kevin may feel better and not need surgery for a long time yet. It's really all about how Kevin can handle the pain.

BUT - Kevin will need surgery eventually. It may be next month, it may be next year, but it will happen someday.

When that day arrives, he would like to go in and see if he can clean up the fractures using various screws. If that doesn't work, he will just have to fuse the ankle bone to the shin bone. That would mean that Kevin would not be able to bend his ankle at all. He did tell me that it would affect his walk a little bit, but not much.

Damn! This is really not what we wanted to hear. Kevin was so upset when he heard the word surgery and I don't blame him. This is all just so exhausting.

When I think of all the things we still need to do I just want to sit here and cry. Here is a list of things I can think of (just off the top of my head):

possible foot surgery
facility to teach Kev independence
see new neurosurgeon
see new neuropsychologist
put Kev through detox
need to fix his eye surgically
burn scar laser treatments
looking into hyper baric treatments
find a cognitive rehab program
botox in his hand
(and let's not forget our daily regimen of therapy, therapy and more therapy)

Every time I formulate this little plan in my head on when to do certain things, all kinds of crap comes up emergently.

I just wish we could just live. Just go about our days like normal people. I think it's one of the reasons Kevin is always depressed here. When we are in Texas, our schedule is lighter and we can sometimes do things that are fun. Here, we are just too tired. There are so many therapy appts and doctors appointments that we are too exhausted to do anything else - even on the weekends.

Frankly, I think I just need to sit down and figure out our priorities. Like OT - is it really worth it? It's been 18 months today since he was wounded. The arm is no better now that it was. He still has basically no control. So why are we spending so much time trying to fix it? Really?

I think we need to find some time and energy to live a little. Not just exist for doctors visits and therapy appointments...

Day 549 - Nov 29, 2009

Today my friend Karen and her husband Mark came for a visit. They were in Daytona Beach for vacation and they drove over for the day. It was just so nice to see her and to be able to visit with an old friend from back in my high school days.

What was even greater was that when I told Kevin they were coming he remembered who they were. He told me that he went to Niagara Falls with them - I didn't even have to mention it. It just makes me smile when I see how far he has come in the last few months. He is remembering more and more and is also able to understand a lot of things he couldn't before.

And now I am cutting it short and heading to bed. I'm sure it will be hours yet before I get to sleep as Kevin calls me at least 25 times through the night, but I am going to try anyway. It is so exhausting doing everything because now Kevin can't get out of bed to help himself at all.

Just one night of uninterrupted sleep would be so awesome...

Day 548 - Nov 28, 2009

We didn't do a thing today. I am trying to keep Kevin in bed as much as possible so that he doesn't use his foot/ankle.

I am a little concerned about giving him a shower though. It is such a HUGE struggle to get him into his shower chair with this broken ankle. His shower is large, but it's just not large enough for me, his wheelchair, him and the shower chair he sits on. I think I am going to request a roll-in chair that he can go directly from his bed into the shower and remain in while showering. I hope I can get one quickly (or should I say I hope I can get one period? I'm not sure about the rules on these kinds of things).

And in other news...today was Kevin's last day in the Army. He is officially medically retired. I am glad because this puts him in a much better financial position and (even better) we are hoping that he can now have some of his therapies at home. We aren't sure about this part, but it's something that may be available to him. That would be so great - maybe we wouldn't be so exhausted all the time from running 2 or 3 times a day down the road.

And it's kinda sad too. I know that Kevin intended to make a career out of the Army, but he has lost the chance to do so. I suppose you could look at it as he's lost a lot of chances and possibilities...but then again, you can flip it and look at how much he has gained. How much he can do because of our sheer will and determination to get him better.

So now I need to learn a whole new system - the VA. I know some as we have sorta been in the system for over a year now, but when it came to getting things paid for as active duty - it just happened. Now there is a process and I need to learn it quickly. By Monday...before we see the surgeon...

Day 547 - Nov 27, 2009

I called so many tire places to get a new tire today and nobody has one that size? What the heck?!!

I had to give up after a while as the podiatrist was waiting for us to get to the hospital. Because Breezy had my car keys in Texas (which I got in the mail today - my parents searched our house for 2 months and all that time they were in Breezy's coat pocket, lol), we were totally car-less so Parshall (Kevin's aide) ran us to the hospital.

It must have been a resident that we saw because we have to go back on Monday and see the attending, but she did give Kevin a cam-boot for now. She told us there is a fragment of bone that is just floating around near his ankle and she thinks it's been there all along. She said it's possible the bike ride, or even if him walking in the shoes made for the bike, might have aggravated it. There is no way to know for sure. He could've slept on it wrong too.

Ann - I will let you know who the doc ends up being. I will try to request the ones you suggested, but we'll see. I am so glad that worked out for Mark! Miss you around here!

So Kev pretty much has to lay around in bed as much as possible. I haven't figured out what this is going to do to our therapy schedule yet. I guess we'll figure that out on Monday.

And now I think I will go scrap for a bit. Hope everyone had a good Black Friday. I regret not being able to catch some of the sales, but I would never go anyway as I can't stand the crowds.

(Cathy M - I hope your mom is doing ok? And Kristen - when will you hear the test results of your Mom's?)

Day 546 - Nov 26, 2009

I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. We did. Great food, lots of family arguing and did I mention great food?

Kevin's foot doesn't hurt anymore so I have been 'yelling' at him all day to stay off of it. He just won't listen. I sure hope the orthopedic surgeon can get us in for sure tomorrow and do whatever needs to be done with it. Kev is just not understanding the need to stay off it.

We didn't really do anything today. Most of the family played on the Wii all day and even Kevin enjoyed it. He had a really good day.

And my nephew Anthony came down to stay for a couple of days and he and Kevin got along really well too.

I have been wondering myself if the bike is the reason Kevin's foot got fractured. I think we will find out when we see the surgeon. That will really stink as it is the one thing he is enjoying above all others right now.

As for us riding on the road - we don't have a choice. There are no trails in our development and if we are going to go anywhere else, we need a truck. I can get his bike into the van with a LOT of finagling, but if his is in there, mine can't fit.

I will say that in some ways now Kevin is like normal. When it comes to riding, he is extremely conscious of the traffic and hears it early and moves over close to the edge and slows way down. I also stay on his butt (but I had to back off to take the picture) as I am a natural born worrywart when it comes to this kid.

Also, I know someone responded about this, but there is no way his foot can fall off of the pedals. He has special shoes that lock right to them.

I think it's all going to be a moot point for now anyway. It doesn't look like he'll be riding for a while.

And I think I will get to bed now. I have to get up early and get a new tire put on the van and then take Kev over to the hospital (I hope anyway).

Breezy - I hope you had a great Thanksgiving! It wasn't the same without you here! Love you!

Day 545 - Nov 25, 2009

This has been such a horrible day. First, we went down to have the CT scan only to find out that you need an appointment and the docs didn't make one - they just told us to walk in. (and of course the radiologist had left early today)

Second, after scrambling around, we went to the VA to have the scan done and it put Kevin right where he was months ago - in a very bad mood! I haven't seen him like this since we left for Texas. I know it's because everything is just such a struggle there. Nothing is easy. NOTHING. From the parking, to seeing any docs and even being told to wait because the results would be in 10 minutes and it taking an hour and a half.

But then the day got worse. On our way home from the hospital, I got a flat tire. Picture 5 lanes of traffic going 80+mph on a holiday weekend. Of course I was on a bridge. The exit was only a hundred feet ahead of us, but I was already riding the rim so I couldn't go any further. The problem? Well, there are lots of them.

1. Kevin's foot is fractured and he cannot stand up. (yep, you heard me - it's broken - but I didn't know this at this point)

2. The wheelchair ramp of the van is on the side of the road that is against the railing of the bridge. It cannot be opened.

3. Even if it were on the other side of the van, you cannot open a car door on that side with cars whizzing past so fast.

4. So Kevin is stuck. Stuck in his wheelchair. In the back of the van.

5. The van is so low due to the ramp, that you can't get a jack under it at all. No tow trucks will tow with someone inside though.

6. A cop came, I was so relieved. He told me he was sending a road ranger so I hung up the phone with the road assistance carrier I have.

7. After an hour - still no road ranger.

8. At this point my family came and we somehow managed to get Kevin out of his wheelchair, into the front seat and out the door. They took him home as he was so overstimulated he was just screaming his head off. (And I think he is lucky that he is able to just do that if he wants to.)

9. My brother-in-law, Joe, stayed with me though and after another hour, I called the roadside assistance folks back and scheduled them to come.

10. They were there in 15 minutes. Joe and the tow truck driver shook the van until it was rockin up a storm. They managed to get the jack under enough to raise it so that some chunks of wood could be put under the car and then you could put the jack in the correct place.

11. As I look across the 5 lanes of traffic on the other side of the highway, I see my road ranger with a car that was broken down over there.

So we did get it all fixed and Joe and I took off for home. Tonight was one of our Thanksgiving dinners. We are having two because my niece has to work tomorrow. I guess I should be happy I didn't have to do any of the cooking, huh?

But now I have to figure out how to get a new tire and get Kevin in to see an orthopedic surgeon on Friday. Yes, the word surgery has already been thrown out there. I refuse to think about this though today. Friday is soon enough.

Now I just need to figure out how to keep Kevin down for 2 days. He says it doesn't hurt as much and he feels he should just be able to walk all he wants.

I just have to ask - why can't anything just be easy?

So I don't have it in me to be all happy and positive today. I think I will just sign off, but I do want to wish everyone a super wonderful Thanksgiving!

I am sure my day will be better tomorrow...

Day 544 - Nov 24, 2009

I took Kevin for an x-ray today, but the radiologist wants us to come back for a CT scan tomorrow. He feels there is probable cause for a break and wants a clearer picture. I gotta be honest, I have no idea how I am going to handle a broken foot. It took over a half hour of struggling just to get him into the shower tonight. (I would've let it go, but he didn't get one yesterday).

Now that he doesn't have his 'good' leg, I can see how truly bad his right leg is. I can't figure out how he can even walk on it. He cannot hold himself up on it, that's for sure. This basically means that I am lifting him up to get him into his chair. I am so glad we still have the van too. At least I can transport him in his wheelchair - making a trip out so much easier.

And I want to thank everyone for all the emails regarding Kevin's pain meds. There are so many that I am just going to put it all here rather than answer individually as there isn't time for me to do so. (and I truly thank everyone for all of their concerns!)

So basically, I want to say that I didn't make the decision to take away the oxycontin on my own. I did ask the pain mgmt doctor if I could do this. I should also say that Kevin is still on a high dose of oxy that is a sustained release pill so that it lasts all day/night. The ones I took him off of are just little 10mg tabs that are for breakthrough pain. Kevin rarely has breakthrough pain any longer so days went by when he wouldn't even need any. This means that he won't suffer withdrawal from me giving him Tylenol instead.

He also won't get the Tylenol too often. At the very most - it would be once a day. But truthfully, it won't even be that frequently.

And I have also heard of people dying from taking too much Tylenol. I keep a hawk's eye on Kevin and all his side effects, so we should be ok. Like I said, he really won't be taking it all that often anyway.

As for the suggestions of different pain medications that are better for you - I will keep a list and discuss them all with the pain management doc. I really liked the woman that we saw last week and she seems to really be on top of things, so hopefully we can come up with a new plan. We will be waiting until late Jan or Feb to start detoxing Kevin and I should insert that I doubt we will see her before then.

And now I am going to send a message to my girls at work - I promise to make y'all stromboli and stuffing balls when we come home (PA home) next summer, lol. I miss you guys so much!

And on this week of thanksgiving, I want to reiterate something I used to say often back in the beginning. ALWAYS tell those you love that you do love them. Tell them you appreciate them too! You just never know when you won't be able to see them anymore - whether it's through death or an emergency that takes them away for good.

Day 543 - Nov 23, 2009

Kevin woke up this morning with his left ankle hurting really bad. I have no idea what he did, but he can't even put any weight on it. I can't imagine what happened as he didn't get out of bed all night long. It's very strange. Anyway, if it's still hard for him to bear weight in the morning, we will go for an x-ray.

So we did nothing today. He only got out of bed one time and wheeled around for a while, but then he got back in and has stayed there all day/night. I even laid out dinner on his bed and we ate there, rather than him have to put his weight on it. He's just put on too many pounds for me to help lift him out of bed and into his chair. I could do it when he weighed 125, but over 160? No way!

Speaking of weight, I am trying to get Kevin to diet. All of his pants are too tight again. I am seeing the beginning of a very bad trend and it needs nipped in the bud right now. I just don't know how to do it. It's hard not to eat when you're bored and I suspect that is part of the problem. Once his ankle's better we can get back on the bike and that should help some, but it won't take care of it all.

My biggest fear is him being 300 pounds and falling down. I can't imagine how I would deal with that (other than to call 911) - I just don't want to get to this point though.

And yesterday I went and bought some Tylenol. I have decided we are not going to use the Oxycontin IR (immediate release) for breakthrough pain any longer. I want to get a jump on the detox and if I can at least pull out a few pills a week, it's a start. He has very little excessive pain anymore anyway - so I think we will be safe with the Tylenol. I just hate all these pills...

And I am going to end with a video that has been airing on PBS. It features two of the families that are here at the VA in Tampa. You can catch it on TV or view it on their website:

Who's Helping Our Wounded Vets?

Day 542 - Nov 22, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight. I am scrapbooking and don't want to lose my mojo...

Day 541 - Nov 21, 2009

We stayed home all day today. It was wonderful. I made stromboli for dinner and I swam, but Kevin didn't want to. He was playing his Zune and that's fine with me. The more he plays that thing, the more his brain is healing.

So to answer a few more questions - about the pharmacy - we do usually use the mail order pharmacy (although that requires MANY phone calls every month as nothing is ever right), but because we were away for 2 months we had to 'start over'. It still could have been mail order, but we needed to see the doctor first for his narcotics and I only had enough to get us through Sunday. That meant that we had to wait for the meds.

I should say that we didn't 'wait' there the whole time though. It took about 30-40 minutes for me just to drop off the script as there were so many people there. I left Kevin in the car with his aide (who started back yesterday), but he did call me numerous times and ask me "how long?". After we dropped it off, I had to run the aide back to our house (a half hour drive) because her shift was over and then we had to turn around and go back to pick up the pills. They were ready when we got there because of all the rush hour traffic taking her back to our house and then coming back to the VA.

So anyway, great idea on the survival bag, Miss Em. I will get one of those ready for the next time.

LauraRL - thanks for the offer of being a resource for Breezy. I will let you know if she ever needs anything. So far, she is very happy with her job and her apartment. She is making friends and doing things, which is so great for her.

mamaworecombatboots - Signing Time just sent Kevin some of their CDs for us to learn sign language. They actually sent them a while ago, but we weren't home. I am anxious to give it a try. Our FRC has used this method of learning sign language and she tells us it's a wonderful and easy way of doing so.

Julie - I am looking for one of those bulb changers (thanks!). My bro-in-law came down yesterday and changed the ones he could reach so it's at least a little bit brighter in the kitchen.

Kristen - how is your Mom? Thanks for all the info on what has worked with you and Travis. We have been looking for a therapist for Kevin, but the normal psychologists we were referred to told me that they couldn't really help due to his inability to talk. They suggested a neuropsychologist and now that we are home we should be able to get back on track. We had just gotten the authorization to see one when we left for Texas. I need to call and set up a new appt after Thanksgiving.

And I totally agree that things that you and I feel are normal can be overstimulating to Kevin. Riding down the road with the car window even cracked open is too much for him. The windshield wipers are too much too, but he knows we don't have a choice on those. The docs have repeatedly told me that we don't know what he 'hears' all the time. It's why I think he doesn't listen to music much and the TV is always on mute. I assume he has a lot of noise in his head.

It would just be so much easier if he could just tell us what is going on. EVERYTHING would be so much easier if he could just tell us what is going on.

Anyway - Kristen, I would love to chat with you. Grab my number from the system at work and call anytime. Please! And tell Travis 'hello'.

And I think I'll sign off here tonight...

Day 540 - Nov 20, 2009

Today was a very long day. We had to go over to the VA hospital for an appt so that we could get Kevin's medications refilled. It ended up being a 7 hour day because it takes hours to get meds from the pharmacy. Grrr...

Other than that, we just took a walk around the block tonight. We didn't get to ride bike today, and that was kinda depressing, but there just wasn't time.

Neither one of us has had time to get in the pool at all this week either. Tomorrow is the day, I hope. It's just been so crazy getting everything organized to be back home.

And I know I said I was going to get to some more of the comments, but I think I am going to go to bed a little early tonight.

Day 539 - Nov 19, 2009

We had another good day today. Kevin had to go to therapy and have an evaluation done and he walked on the treadmill for 6 minutes and rode the stationary bike for 11 minutes. He did really well and he loved seeing all of his 'old friends' at the office.

After that we came home and had a quick bite to eat for lunch and then we took a bike ride over to Chris's house. (she is the Marine's mom). They live about 3 miles away and Kevin did the whole trip without a break at all (and I woulda died for a break, lol!). Chris had just ridden her bike over to visit so it worked out well that we just followed her home.

The weather was truly beautiful here today in FL and you couldn't have asked for a better day to ride bike. Here are a couple of pics that I took with my phone while out riding:




And I do agree Kevin needs an ID bracelet and I have already sent a message to find where to get one. I'm not too worried about him going on a bike ride without me knowing though. There are many things that he needs help with - even actually getting down onto the seat, but the most important thing is that his sneakers actually lock into the pedals and Kevin cannot get his right leg into the lock by himself. Truthfully, it takes me 5 minutes or so to get it in as he can't help hold his leg in place. At this point, he would not be able to get anywhere if his shoes weren't locked in as his foot just can't stay on the pedal. I'm sure as time goes on he will get more capable of doing at least some of these things by himself, but I think it will be a while.

And now I need to get the dishes done. Our dishwasher has been broken since before we left for TX and they are finally coming tomorrow to fix it. The whole family came down for dinner and there are still a few dishes that need done.

Day 538 - Nov 18, 2009

Guess what we picked up today?! Kevin's new bike!! I wish I had some pics to share with you, but it was nearing dark by the time we got home from the bike shop and I felt it was more important to get him out on a ride rather than run in to get my camera. Man, he is so stinkin' happy! He is just beside himself.

So, assuming we ride again tomorrow (and that's if this body - that is bound to be sore - can handle it!), I will take some pictures then. I purchased a book at the bike store that is an in-depth reference guide to all of the paved trails in FL and I am looking forward to us checking a bunch of those out. I have to get in better shape first though, lol. We only rode maybe a mile or so today and my thighs hurt so bad. Kevin, on other hand, coulda probably rode another 10 miles.

And now I am going to answer just a few of the questions I have in my email. There are so many, and I am so far behind, but I am only going to take the time to answer a couple of them tonight.

To anonymous who wondered if I could teach Kevin my phone number so that we can connect when we are separated in the stores - he has been able to call me for months now. He doesn't know my number, but he has me on speed dial. This is how I am able to go to sleep. This is how I can go upstairs to my scraproom or even how I can go out and swim while he is in his room - he just calls me when he needs something. On the flip side - he calls me constantly. I rarely get to finish the job in the bathroom without a phone call. I went to a movie one time and he called me roughly 20 times. It's why I don't get any sleep - he calls me all night long (he hardly sleeps at all - day or night). Basically, his phone is his 'call bell', lol. I'm not complaining though - it actually really works for us and as time goes on, he is calling me less and less (at least through the daylight hours).

Tracy Jack - you want to send your guys down for independence training - please do. Our ceilings are over 20 ft high and I have 7 light bulbs blown. I have no idea how to change these without killing myself so I could really use your husband about now. If you don't - we are going to be sitting here in the dark real quick, lol.

Aunt Mona - I believe Breezy will be spending Thanksgiving with Elizabeth and Jake at Ft Hood. (I shared a photo of her and her boyfriend when they visited us in Texas). At least she will be with someone. I hated the thought of her being all alone.

And that's it for tonight. I have a bunch more questions/comments to get to over the next few days.

Day 537 - Nov 17, 2009

We had a really good day today. We didn't really do anything special - we were just both in a good mood (probably because the MRSA is gone and it is such a weight off of our shoulders).

We did go and visit my parents today and my sister cut Kevin's hair while we were there. He needed it so bad, but we couldn't do it while he had stitches in his head.

On the way home, we stopped at Target for a few groceries. I know a while back I talked about sending him to 'get' something and I did it again today. But this time, I did give him two things to get. I made sure they were both in the same aisle to help him (bread and hamburger buns) and he did well, but he didn't get it right. He did get the burger buns, but he grabbed hot dog buns too, instead of the bread.

And check these two photos out:




Yep. We didn't have Kevin's wheelchair with us today, so I allowed him to ride the electric cart around. I was so worried about his driving skills, but he did fantastic! At first I made him stay close to me to see if he would hit anything, but he was very cautious so I finally sent him away. (I always leave him in the stores now. My way of forcing his independence.). Anyway, I was very proud of him for compensating for the lost vision on his right. He really did a super job driving! (and I so see him and my dad racing each other through the store now, lol)

And now I am going to get back to scrapping. I really should be answering emails, but I just need a few days of sitting in my scrap room...