I think the really sad part about all of this spiraling out of control is that all I asked was that everybody write to their senators and congressmen. I rarely mention the bad things that go on throughout most of the day, but I did decide to share what really goes on in a wounded soldier's caretaker's financial life just so that you could all see how important it is to support this bill. That was it. That's all I asked.
How it all turned into an attack of sorts on my purchasing a Wii and a laptop to help Kevin regain some of the mental shortcomings is beyond me.
How it ended up being that we have eaten out too much over the last 14 months I don't know either. Personally I would die a heavenly death if I could have a home cooked meal forever more. Does anyone have any idea how hard it is to eat out 3 meals a day for almost a year because you don't either have access to a kitchen in your living quarters or because you don't leave your son's hospital bed to cook?
As for the pool - no regrets. I do admit that if I had known that Kevin wasn't going to be discharged for a year - I would have waited. But I had been told over and over again that he would be. That the process had already been started. As to why I purchased the pool - two reasons. Number one - therapy. No more explanation needed on that point. Number two - Kevin is almost always in his room. I want him to come out and do things he used to enjoy doing. Swimming was one of those things (and let's face it - he's never going to drive again, never skateboard, never play XBox, never ride his BMX bike and never jump out of an airplane either). Now we could have went to a public pool but I have this aversion to making my son become the entertainment for the day. When we took him into the pool all those months ago it took him close to 20 minutes to get into the pool (and get out) and it's not like he's going to just start swimming right off the bat either. And we won't even mention how bad his body is burned. So should I seriously just put him through that? NO.
The point really has been that all of these things may not be necessities to a normal person, but we don't live a normal lifestyle. Kevin requires the pricier patio table and lounge chair because he (and the piece of furniture) both fall over when he tries to get up if it is too lightweight.
I also think that some of you believe that we eat at expensive restaurants all the time and that is so not true. It's a rare treat and I usually mention it on here because it is a treat. I also should point out that I don't usually eat when we hit a drive-thru (Kevin is ALWAYS hungry) - he purchases his meal and I wait until we get home and have a fried egg or peanut butter toast or something simple like that for dinner.
So what I would like to do is end this drama right now. I honestly don't have the time to dwell on it as my day is full enough already. I don't discount anything anybody has said - we all have our own opinions, but all the negativity must stop. I just don't live my life that way. I just can't live my life that way.
I will say that I am very sorry if I offended anyone with my spending, but I don't really regret anything. I have done everything for Kevin to help him have a better quality of life. If it wasn't done on your timetable - I'm sorry, but I do feel that each thing that I purchased has helped him get better than they ever said he would.
So once again - let's move on completely from money issues and focus on the real thing - KEVIN!
Kev said a new word today - RED. Strange, I know, but he has flashcards from the new therapist and he did very well with his colors. He has to learn them all over again, but we are getting there.
I can't stress enough how pleased I am with this new therapy group. They so rock! Kevin is just responding to everyone and doing so much more than he ever would. He even walks in and shouts and waves hello to the receptionist and just 'talks' up a storm with everyone. He loves it there.
Today we didn't do too much. We did go to visit my sister Kim, who just moved here yesterday. YAY! And other than that, Kev just 'hung out' with Tracy's son Jessi and his friend Mikey. They are getting along really well. I made a very small dent in the pile of mail and we got things organized because...and get this...our things from PA are finally going to arrive on Monday. YAY!!!! I can't even remember what we have. But I can't wait to see my sewing machine and my Kitchen Aid mixer. Oh and my food chopper. And my clothes. And Kevin's things from Afghanistan (although all of his movies and games were stolen). It's been 14 months today since Kevin was wounded and pretty much that long since any of us have seen our things. I just can't wait to have our home back - even if it is in Florida.
First 2 from the Nov kit!
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