Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Day 186 - Dec 3, 2008

We had hoped to take Kevin to look at a house this evening, but it didn't work out. He was very tired and wanted back in bed at 3pm and by the time we got him back up it was just too late to go. I guess maybe tomorrow we will make it.

We did load him in the van and take him to Subway though. At first, he wouldn't go in, but I pretty much made him. I was so glad that he finally realized he had to and when he went in he actually was joking and carrying on. He even paid for his meal with Tracy's debit card. He really had a good time out and about and that's just the beginning. We are going to continue going somewhere on a daily basis - even if it's just for a ride.

On that note, I have decided it's time to buy a van with a lift in it. I have been foolishly holding off because to be honest, I just thought he would be able to walk out of here. I still think he will be able to (at least I hope so), but realistically - he will get exhausted quickly if he is able to walk so we will need his chair anyway. I am very afraid to spend this money, but I am hoping there are some grants or organizations out there to help us. I hate to be getting a car loan when we will be getting a mortgage within the next few months.

And gosh - for those of you that know me - y'all know that I have been adamantly against the whole mini-van lifestyle. I am just so not the van type of girl, lol. Even when the kids were little everyone kept saying 'get a van, get a van' and I was like 'are you nuts?'. Tracy thinks it's so hilarious that I am now going to have to drive one that she is planning on buying one of those goofy signs that says 'mom's taxi' on it. Hmph. She's crazy if she thinks that's going anywhere near that van!

How life can sure change, huh? But it's ok. I will do anything for my kids - even drive a mini-van, lol! (and no offense to any moms out there that drive them, hehe)

And to change the subject, and I am almost afraid to say this for fear of jinxing it, but watching Kev tonight - it seems like he is accepting things better now. I know the antidepressants take a couple of weeks to really work, but maybe they are kicking in early. I guess we will know more about that over the next few days or so.

And I had a really pleasant day today. Karen, one of my good friends from way back in high school, happened to be in Florida visiting her aunt with her mom. She is from PA and she jumped in her rental car and drove over from Daytona to visit. It was so nice!! We went for a nice lunch and just talked for a couple of hours. Tracy wanted to stay with Kevin which enabled me to go for a short while. I was really happy to see her - even if it was just for 4 or 5 hours!

Well, I need to get moving, but wish us luck tomorrow on going to see one of the houses...


Jessica said...

Glad to hear that you've got some houses picked out and are to the point of narrowing it down. I hope you do find an organization to either donate or let you borrow wheelchair-accessible van. It's not like you're going to need it forever, so I can see why you don't to buy one.

That's great that Kevin ended up enjoying the Subway trip. Maybe that's the route you'll have to take with the Disney trip, too; you know, the age-old momism "you're going to go and you're going to have a good time whether you like it or not!" And he'll have a great time!

Praying for your house-picking venture and the van situation!

Leslie said...

It will be great to get a house picked out and start getting settled! Good Luck! Hope Kevin gets more used to being out and about, it will surely be good for him!
Take care,
Soldiers' Angel from Colorado

Linda said...

I am glad to hear that you are getting Kevin out and about, and once he gets use to everything things will calm down.
I have read you have been home shopping....have you ever considered checking out the program for wounded/disabled vets? It is
It was started by a man who was into construction himself. Check it out if you ever have time. It builds homes for men like Kevin and their families to suit their own personal needs! The site said it has already has if I remember right 33 completed, and 19 in progress in 24 different states! It sure wouldn't hurt to fill out an online application!
I hope things continue to improve for you and your family! My prayers are with you!

Jan said...

And gosh - for those of you that know me - y'all know that I have been adamantly against the whole mini-van lifestyle. I am just so not the van type of girl, lol. Even when the kids were little everyone kept saying 'get a van, get a van' and I was like 'are you nuts?'."

So now you know why so many moms drive SUVs. So they can have the room without feeling like they're in a minivan. LOL

Jan - still reading and praying daily, just haven't had much to say....

Long-time RN said...

Sounds like you're making progress!
Yes, the antidepressant meds do take a few weeks to reach a desired blood level. Sure hope the Disney trip is a go. Thoughts and prayers as you face the many decisions ahead.

Anonymous said...

No Leslie you drive the old lady's car remember lol