Saturday, January 29, 2011

Day 975 - Jan 29, 2011

The meeting yesterday went pretty well, but I am still so skeptical that things will really work out. I know I came across like a witch, but I am so tired of people saying they are going to do something and then never getting the job done. Why waste everyone's time? Particularly mine?

So I guess there's nothing they can do within the VA for more help at home. We are supposed to find some organizations that will send people out to spend time with Kevin, but I am not sure exactly how that works out. It's not like I am going to allow a stranger to take Kevin to therapy or anything like that. It takes time for both Kevin and myself to trust someone for activities and things like that.

We did decide to admit Kevin to the hospital for 3 days in a few weeks where he will have extensive neuro-psych testing done to see how much he really does understand. At that time, they will also work on different therapies and send him to the gait clinic to help him learn to walk better.

I have decided to stay away from the hospital those three days completely. Yes, I am taking a break. Even better, he is going into the hospital the last part of the week that Moe is coming to visit. This will give me some time to spend with Moe and really take a breather. I talked to Johnnie and he agreed to check in on Kevin those few days for me and I'm sure Breezy will too. Now we just have to hope that I really can stay away. I really intend to because I so desperately need a little down time, but it's just really hard for me to trust anybody.

We discussed quite a few more things but I think I will hold off on those for a bit. I am a little tired and want to go veg for a bit.

Before I do though - and this is said lovingly (with no snark whatsoever) toward our loyal readers - FORGET THE DOG THING, lol! Honestly - it is just NOT gonna happen. To put it bluntly, I have given up everything for my son. I will bust my butt to get him better. But I will never in a million years live with a dog in the house. I can't stress enough how much I dislike dogs. Animals, really. But I did break down and get Kevin a cat a while ago, remember? Well, that thing drove me nuts. It was just more responsibility on an already heaping plate and it meowed constantly. Nope. No Dogs. NONE!

Love that y'all suggested it though. I do appreciate you thinking about Kevin, but for once since Kevin was wounded - my needs are coming first. And I need a dog free home.

(Now we'll see how many jokesters are out there, lol. Last time I said this I got a bunch of cards with puppies/dogs on them.)

Also, to clarify - in yesterday's photos, Christian is on the left in the first photo and that is also him in the last photo. My cousin's baby, Braeden (sp) is on the right in the top photo and we laughed that they both have the same outfit.


Miss Em said...


I know what you mean by a "no animal" house for when {w}Ho-tat passed I thought I would have a "no animal" house.
When I allowed my brother to move in with me, he brought his cat.
His cat and I are having issues. His cat is learning, SLOWLY.

Miss Em

Anonymous said...

since you do so much of kevins care, you can go to cna school which i think takes 25 hours, then get paid for what you do. a friend of mine gets paid for taking care of her son who lost the use of both legs. something to look into.

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Long-time RN said...

Good for you taking the hospital days to relax with Moe. You recognize you need this down time, so take advantage of those days.

Leslie said...
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Leslie said...

I can get where you come from with the animals in the house!! I have both cats and (one) dog and they STAY OUTSIDE!!! They have housing and are snug in the barn while the wind is howling outside - I have had both in the house before and just don't want to deal with the mess and hair anymore!! Stick to your guns, Leslie - you need to take care of yourself!! (The other) Leslie

GrannieEv said...

Love the way you posted about the dog! Cracked me up.

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