Sunday, March 1, 2009

Day 274 - Mar 1, 2009

Today was one of the better days we have had in a long time. Kevin's mood was really great most of the day. I don't know if it's because we had a long talk (again) last night or if it's just a fluke, but I'll take it. I did tell him that he has to wake up every day and say "I am lucky" and I even wrote it on the whiteboard in his hospital room to remind him. Mind over matter, maybe? Who knows...time will tell, I guess.

Other than that, nothing new really going on. We did go shopping at Wal-Mart today and that's about it. We tried to yesterday, but we couldn't get a handicap parking spot and after almost 20 minutes I gave up and went to Target. Kevin was really mad as he doesn't seem to like Target (?) and he wouldn't really allow us to do anything. Yes, we could have forced the issue, but it's just not worth it. Got to pick your battles and I prefer to work on therapies and stuff like that.

I am hoping tomorrow that the docs will be able to tell me what is going on with the infection - if anything? Kev seems to be doing much better, but what was it? And did it clear up on its own or what? Can that even happen? We had been invited to a banquet/event tomorrow at lunch time and I really wanted to go, but I just don't feel comfortable taking Kevin so far from the hospital until I know for sure what's going on. I sure hope that there is news tomorrow.


Jessica said...

I like your idea of the message on the whiteboard. Since Kevin can't change his situation, his attitude is the only thing he can control. It doesn't make it any less difficult or mean that he can't be sad or get frustrated, of course, but at least it's something he can do. He's got to focus on the things that he CAN do, not the things he can't.

Everyone has their own way of coping with depression and I hope that Kevin eventually finds his. Maybe something from my experience can help Kevin fight his own battle. I fight depression every day because I'm housebound and constantly dealing with frustrating setbacks that make me sicker. I have to make a conscious choice to fight depression and do it because I hate being depressed; it's a horrible feeling, like I'm drowning or being crushed. Some days I win, some days I don't! But I try to keep my sense of humor, work harder at leaning on my friends and not keeping it all in. Reading the Psalms and giving God all my anxieties and feelings through prayer is a huge part for me. Praising the Lord and thanking Him for His provision and blessings, no matter how sick I feel, also affects my attitude. I don't know if Kevin has a personal relationship with the Lord, but if he does, remind him that Jesus is our peace and fulfillment and has promised us a crown of life for those who persevere. (James 1:12)

I feel for you and Breezy, since you're deeply affected by everything Kevin has to go through, too. (I'm 31 and live with my mom who is affected by my illness as much as I am.) I'm praying for you and hope that once you get in your house and have some room to spread out that it will help some of the stress between the two of you. I hope that sharing about my experiences isn't too presumptive or preachy; I just figure maybe my experience can be of some use to someone else going through a hard time. Take care!

LISA said...

Jessica..I read your post and there are SO MANY good suggestions that are posted only to be helpful.

I remember back to the post where Kevin went alone to the East Brady Baptist church, as shared by Mrs. O'Hanlon..along with her story. It's real nice to read if you go back and search.

Kevin going to church alone certainly tells you that he wanted to be there. Whether he has a personal relationship with the Lord, Jessica, only Kevin knows..but it certainly says something that he was there.

God Bless you all going through this with Kevin.... and Jessica, praying for you too with your daily battle.

I'm glad you shared this with everyone. It makes us realize that we are all touched by one thing or another and sharing it was a good thing. Your thoughts are so caring for Kevin and his family, as always. : )'ve come a long, long way. Keep up the good work.

Anonymous said...

As to infections: I had a cat who would get horrible bite wounds that puffed up so bad. I'd call the vet for an appointment but the wounds would heal before I got him there. My vet said, "He's got a good immune system."

So, maybe Kevin did heal up on his own. Of course, he's not a cat!

As to depression, perhaps he would benefit from a support group. Nothing better than being among people coping with the same problems. Some will be better off, some not. He can complain (and they'll understand) but he won't be pitied. After all, they're all in the same boat. Just a thought.

Anonymous said...

I had a dream last night that Kevin didn't have any scarring left on his face and he was talking and laughing. I just kept looking at him and realized that he is now better. It was so exciting! Have they mentioned how far down the road they will be able to do the plastic surgery? I think that will help him feel better too. They sure can do amazing things.
I'm so glad Kevin was in a great mood yesterday and hope today is the same. It sure makes everyone happy!
Have a wonderful day!
Kathy in IA

Anonymous said...

Hi Les,

Been a little while, but we have been thinking about all of you all of the time. We still read your blog every single day...

Kevin really seems to be dealing fairly well with the cards handed to him. I cannot say I would be so willing to get up every day and do the things he does. He really seems to try to make strides... not only to satisfy himself but you and Breezy also. I think he is doing well under the circumstances. I cannot imagine me in his situation.

And as far as antidepressants...yes, yes and long as the doctors do not go over board, this cannot hurt him, it can only encourage him to do the best he can. Otherwise, he may just lay there and not try anymore.

I only have one big fear in my life...which is driving over high bridges with water. Travis will tell you I have to pull over and breathe before we cross the bridge on the turnpike to go to Idlewild Park. Just seeing the sign for a bridge over a large body of water completely sends me over the edge. I am wondering if it's not so much that Kevin doesn't like the store, Target, in general, but he just really hates seeing all of the target logos everywhere. They may remind him of something he really doesn't like...May go back to that generalized anxiety thing again...not sure, just a guess...

Take care...hope all works out for you, Kevin and Breezy. We think and pray for you daily.

Kristen M.