Sunday, March 15, 2009

Day 288 - Mar 15, 2009

It was just like old times tonight. We were cruising down the road headed back to the hospital and I am in the front of the van (car) listening to my music and Kevin is in the back seat (chair) listening to his iPod. He was just dancing and singing along with whatever music he listens to, lol. It was just so funny to me.

Today was truly an absolutely perfect day. We did nothing. And I mean NOTHING! We woke up at 9 and I gave him his shot and the rest of his meds and then we both went back to sleep until noon. We then got up and had breakfast/lunch and he watched movies and I cleaned a little bit. Then we both took showers and still just laid around.

At about 5:00 or so we virtually went to my mom and dad's going away party at my aunt Mona's house. Yep - we skyped with all of the people that attended and it was so nice being able to see everyone!! It was a lot of fun to hear all the noise of our family get-togethers! And wow - have the kids all grown!!!

So I want to tell everyone that yesterday Kevin and I had a long talk about Tim. I did tell him that his dad was there for about 3 weeks after he was hurt, but that he hasn't really been around since - at least not in any way that counts. I then asked Kevin if he wanted to talk to him and he said 'yes' so I put the number in his phone and he called him. As soon as he heard Tim's voice Kevin just broke down. He just sobbed and sobbed. It just broke my heart and I cried right along with him and it also made me realize exactly how much I hate Tim for what he did to my kids. I know this has been a bone of contention between myself and some of the readers here, but I will never forgive what he and his family have done to my babies.

I did tell Kevin, however, that I will support whatever he wants to do. Tim called Kevin 3 times today and Kevin wouldn't answer the phone any of those times. I guess he needs to work out how he feels and I just told him that I would be there for him no matter what he decides to do. I did bite my tongue and told Kevin that maybe Tim wants to try to make up for his mistakes, but I also told him that he may not want to as well. I also told him that even if Tim does try, it's possible that it won't be in a way that Kevin will appreciate. There's no mistaking that Tim is nothing like myself or my kids - he just wasn't brought up the same way or has had too many negative outside influences to make him think as we do. It's sad to say, but I'm sure that, in time, Kevin will realize it too. I know Breezy has.

So anyway, Kevin is in a much better place emotionally lately and I do believe it's because he sees how relaxing it is going to be at home. He has something to look forward to now and it has made all the difference in the world.

And tomorrow he is going to be alone the bulk of the day. I have meetings at the house almost all day. I sure hope he can handle it. He does have therapy throughout most of the day so it should be ok. I hope so anyway...


Jodi said...

It is so good to hear you had another relaxing and enjoyable day. Glad you got to "be" at your parents going away party. That is awesome.

You know I agree with you when it comes to Tim, but I think you did the right thing by allowing Kevin the decision to talk to him or not. I am sorry it was so tough and emotional for you both, but I am glad you have each other to support one another thru this. The truth will come out about Tim, and Kevin is smart enough to figure it out. But good for you for what you did.

Hope things go well with the house today. I hope you two have another great day!

Healing and positive thoughts for Kevin.
Strength and comfort for Leslie and Breezy.
Safe thoughts for all military personnel and strength for their families.
Andrew's Aunt Jodi

Anonymous said...

Hi Leslie. I've been reading your blog everyday since Kevin's injury. You sound so much like me and how I react to things. I just wanted to say that I know this past year has created some of the worst memories for you but I, also, think it is creating some of the best memories too. When we were younger we didn't appreciate the small things in life but now that we are......well, you know how old we are, all those small things are what make our life. My son is only 9 but I try to make the most of the time we have together before he grows up and gets married. I cherish those little grins and how he picks on me and the excitement on his face when he does something cool. I think you know what I am talking about. You have such a strength about you. I know you and the kids are going to be just fine and have a happy life. I think Kevin knows what a great mom he has.

Kathy Switlick

Jessica said...

How cool that you and Kevin were able to "attend" your parents' party. It must have been fun for Kevin to see everyone and vice versa.

My heart goes out to Kevin as he struggles with his feelings about his dad. I'll be praying for him and I'm glad that Kevin still seems to be dealing with everything better, even in spite of this.

I hope everything went well today with Kevin and with you in all your meetings at the house. I'll continue to pray for more good days and progress in Kevin's therapies. Take care!