Wow! Ok. Geez...where do I begin?
First, I guess I do need to point out that the reason Kev can't tolerate the cold weather that well is due to his burns. You must remember that he still needs to grow some layers of skin and I am told that that can take a long time. Years sometimes.
Second, no one has approached me about Kevin retiring. Not one person. I was just told about the $60K housing grant that is out there, but Kev needs to be retired to qualify for it.
Third, it's not that we were told we CAN'T go home - we were told it may not be in Kev's best interest to be in the cold weather. Huge difference. So please, please don't think I am saying that all wounded soldiers need to move down south.
And I do realize that we can keep him bundled up - but remember - his WHOLE face was burned. It's impossible to keep his whole face covered - and frankly, what kind of life would that be if we could?
Believe me when I say I don't want to move here. But if I look at Kevin's needs first - he needs to be where it's warmer. And as an FYI - let me point out that when the heat is turned down to 70 degrees in his hospital room - he is shivering. And I am not exaggerating - he is literally shivering. He is cold if it is turned below 75.
So this isn't something that I am just lightly making a decision on. Kathie in Brackenridge mentioned that she could tell that I have been discouraged lately and she is partly right. But even more, I am just sad. I am sad that this has happened to my son, my daughter and myself. And I am sad that we have had to give up everything that we have worked so hard for - our home, our jobs and now even our friends and family being nearby.
But, that's just the way it is, I guess. Some people have an easy life...and others don't. We just happen to fall into the wrong category.
So, that being said, I have tons of info to look through from everyone that posted a comment. I did talk to Steve K and we plan to talk again soon. I was so glad that I actually had the time to talk to him today as Kevin was sleeping. I know there are lots of questions and comments, but I need to shift through them before responding.
And now moving on to some truly fabulous news on the Kevin home front...I had to miss his PT today to return the van we borrowed and Barbara (his therapist) made a special trip back up to see me. She was so excited that she was nearly dancing around. It turns out that Kevin showed her today that he can move his right leg and he has some control over it! She informed me that she has no doubts whatsoever that he will walk out of this hospital - maybe even in the 4 months that I am reaching for.
Great way to end a post, huh?
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