Day 597 - Jan 16, 2010

So I am dumb and just figured out that this computer has some great video software. I really don't know why I didn't think of this before, but I had Kevin sit down tonight and we recorded a couple of videos.

Here is the first one and it is of him counting to five. He can actually count to 15, but it takes some prodding and he wanted to only do the fluid numbers:



I can't even begin to tell you how many tries it took for us to get this right. Kevin had to approve the videos and he expects perfection, lol.

This next one is of us showing you some of the words Kev can say. Let me just say that this one will really show his funny personality!



Can you all tell how far he has come cognitively? Today we were coming home from dropping Ronnie off at the airport (BUMMER!) and Kevin was reading all of the "OPEN" signs he saw on the expressway. It's the first time that Kevin has ever read out loud. I almost cried, lol.

Today the boys went swimming. It has been warmer here the last few days so I turned the heater on for the pool about 3 days ago to get it warm enough for them to swim.

And now I am going to leave you with some pics of them in the pool. It's a sure thing that we are going to miss Ronnie!

Day 596 - Jan 15, 2010

I am feeling a little bit better than last night. It's just going to all work out the way it should, I guess.

So we couldn't get a neurosurgeon to see him today. To be honest, we can't get him in before Wednesday (and even that's not a sure thing). Because we wouldn't even be able to get a flight from the VA before Monday, we are just going to stay here and see what we can find out. If they can't get us in Wed or Thurs, then I will make alternate arrangements.

I will say that Kevin's face is getting a little bit swollen, but he has no other signs of ICP (intercranial pressure). My mom wondered if he might have an abscessed tooth and I have to admit it's a possibility. He hasn't seen a dentist since being wounded and they say IED blasts have a definite effect on teeth. I'm not sure though if that would have anything to do with the fluid buildup though.

I guess we'll see how the weekend goes. If something really bad happens, I do have the option of taking him to the emergency room. It's just that right now the two doctors at Tampa General that aren't on vacation are the two doctors from the VA. Let's just all keep our fingers crossed as I will probably drive him to Sarasota before I will let either of those two touch Kevin.

So to some great stuff - Kevin and Ronnie have been wandering around the world. Ok, that may be an exaggeration, but they have been heading out every day and doing 'things'. Yesterday they went to dinner together at Olive Garden and today they drove over to St Pete to The Pier to see my niece, Chrissy. They also went to dinner tonight too and I can't tell you how awesome it was to see the boys go out and do fun things. I so wish Ronnie lived here! Kevin has been having such a blast and it's going to be so sad to take Ronnie back to the airport tomorrow evening.

But, we have no choice. Tomorrow he has to go home...

Day 595 - Jan 14, 2010

Well, we didn't really learn much today. The doc here called the new neurosurgeon we were supposed to see in Feb, but he never returned the call. In the interim, Dr T from Texas, called and told us that if we can't get seen immediately by a neurosurgeon here in FL we need to be on a plane ASAP.

So Sue, one of the wonderful people at the VA, got on the horn and faxed all of Kevin's records to a different doctor here at Tampa General and we are waiting to see if he will take Kevin on.

It would be different if his issues were simple, but goodness knows - they most definitely are not.

So I feel like I am being torn in two. I know you all think I am a strong person, but I am sitting here with tears running down my face just wondering what the heck I'm supposed to do. My parents told me just to go. Just take Kevin and get this fixed. And of course I want to. BUT like I said last night - it's just not that easy.

Just the thought of losing my dad sends me into a tailspin and thinking that I might not even be here is ripping me apart.

I know, that in reality, I will have no choice but to take care of my baby. No matter what, I know this. But damnit! I really just want this to end. I want Kevin well. I want my dad well. And I want my mom well. That's really all I want in the world.

Can somebody please PLEASE make this happen?!!!

Day 594 - Jan 13, 2010

Well, I got some very upsetting news today. Remember how we went for some tests and found there is some fluid buildup on Kevin's head? Well, one of the docs from the VA hospital called tonight and told me that we need to get to Texas pretty quickly. I think he said that the fluid is inside the plate, not outside like we were originally told. Frankly, I was in shock and didn't really hear much after he said that we needed to go back to TX.

So I guess they all had a conference today - the docs here and the docs there - and that's what they decided.

The problem is that it is not just that easy to leave right now. My WHOLE family is coming in a week or so for my dad's surgery and with Mom possibly having cancer too, it's just not a good time.

But what choice do I have?

I did tell the doc everything tonight and he agreed to call the neurosurgeon we have an appt with on Feb 10. I am hoping that a call from another doc will spur him to get us in early. It's really our only alternative.

And on that note, I am going to quit early tonight. Tracy is leaving early in the morning and we are trying to get everything packed and ready to go.

Day 593 - Jan 12, 2010

Kevin was in a much better mood today - MOST of the time. He and Ronnie went for a couple of walks and then I took them to the mall and dropped them off for a bit. After that we went to Target and then came home and the boys watched a movie while Tracy and I got through organizing more of the den.

I had hoped to go to the Manatee Viewing Center today, but we didn't make it there. Maybe tomorrow. I just want to do something fun while Tracy and Ronnie are here.

And speaking of Ronnie, it's so wonderful to hear Kevin say "Hey Ron" when he wants Ronnie's attention. He can't say Ronnie, but he can say Ron pretty clearly. It's almost like...for one second in time...Kevin is normal. Just talking to his friend. KWIM?

And unfortunately, I am not feeling too good again - I so hope it's just today. I just feel so tired and I can barely keep my eyes open. Tracy went outside to talk on the phone at about 9pm and I crawled in bed for just a second and took an hour long nap. I really should have just stayed in bed, but I hadn't written the blog yet and I knew we needed to get through some more of the piled up mail in the den.

Oh and before I forget - thanks for all the emails and comments about "South Pacific". I was referring to the stage production. I had hoped that Tracy and I could get a night out and it was playing tonight and tomorrow night here in Tampa, but it's not looking like it's going to happen. Bummer.

And before I sign off, to anonymous with the grandson that has MRSA - I am so glad he made it home from the hospital! And yes - that MRSA is some nasty stuff! I hope it's the last of it for both of us! Kevin just finished his antibiotic on Friday. He took it for almost four months.

Day 592 - Jan 11, 2009

Well, Ronnie got here this morning. Unfortunately Kevin has not been in a good mood at all today. I think he might have been tired because he was up all night so excited that Ronnie was coming. I don't know. I just know that he spent the whole afternoon and night in his room by himself. He didn't come out, not even one time.

Very disappointing. And I feel bad for Ronnie. Hopefully things are better tomorrow.

So obviously we didn't do anything today. I am going to sign off though because Tracy and I are each sitting here trying to figure out our accounting software. I got Quicken on Ebay so that I can keep Kevin's budget in order, she got Peachtree for work.

Before I go, an anonymous poster asked that I keep her 1 year old grandson in my thoughts because the baby is in Children's Hospital in Pittsburgh for MRSA. Can I ask that everyone keep the little one in their thoughts?

Day 591 - Jan 10, 2010

I am going to write early tonight because Kevin, Tracy and I are going to rent a movie and watch it.

We didn't really do much. Tracy got here and my whole family came down and we stuffed a turkey and had all the trimmings.

After that, Kev and Tracy went for a walk and Kevin tired Tracy out, lol. I stayed home. It's just too cold out there for me! Right now it's only 36 degrees out and I even turned the pool on for the night because I heard on the news that pool pipes are bursting all over Florida.

So I am going to leave you guys with a couple of photos of Kevin and one of the cat.

This first one is of Kevin and the cat sleeping. You will notice that Kevin's eyes are still a little bit open sometimes when he sleeps. Not always, but sometimes.


I named this one home therapy. This is Kevin pulling Michael around by the back of his wheelchair. Good exercise, huh? LOL!



And this is just a close up I got of the cat when it was waiting at the door to come in. Kevin wanted me to post this one because it's one of his favs.



And now we are going to watch said movie. We have to decide which one first though...

Day 590 - Jan 9, 2010

I feel so much better today. Parshall came because her car broke down on Thursday and she couldn't come that day. It made it nice because I was able to get some much needed mail opened and I made a huge dent into getting the den organized. It still needs so much more work, but I am getting there.

And I messed up the day - Tracy is coming tomorrow, not today. Today my nephew Scott came though. I think he is planning to get a job and stay here, which will be great help for my mom and dad.

And I also scrapped all night tonight. Kevin has only called me a few times and I managed to get 4 layouts done. In one night even! It's early too, so I think I am going to continue scrapping. I haven't felt up to it due to being sick and I set a goal for myself to do a minimum of 2 layouts a week in 2010. I am now caught up (pretty bad that the first week of the year I failed at my goal, huh? LOL)! I think my creativity is back because Josh got my stereo hooked up up here and I can finally listen to music!

OH! I almost forgot! Kevin went for 3 walks around the block all by himself today! (and yes - it's frigid here! It gave me an excuse to make Hot Cocoa though - which I bought forgetting that I now live in Florida!). He was so excited and I was so proud of him. At first, I watched him as far as I could out the window, but he has made such great strides that I believe he can be trusted to go around the back end block. There's basically no traffic back there so I felt safe letting him go.

Oh - and I decided to not make any decisions this week about detox and OT and just enjoy the fact that Ronnie will be here with Kevin and Tracy will be here to help me get things in order. It's gonna be a mini working vacation.

So I will leave you with a question: Has anyone seen the Broadway show South Pacific? I would love some reviews...

Day 589 - Jan 8, 2010

We went to the VA again today to discuss the pain issues and when to begin detoxing Kevin. I guess I am a little confused because the last time we were there we were told that the docs would use Suboxone to detox Kevin as it takes away all of the symptoms of withdrawal, but then today we were told that only extreme addicts that are to the point of robbing people to get their drugs can get the Suboxone from the VA. Say what? I think that is just nuts! Once again, I think this system is totally messed up. You've got these guys and girls being wounded in combat, needing narcotics to handle the pain that their injuries cause and they can't get help with drug rehab? Yet some junkie that is wielding a gun to get his fix can? I honestly just don't understand this!

So I guess I need to figure out what to do on this one. I just wish something could be easy. It seems to be a foreign concept though, huh?

And although I am feeling better, I still don't feel super great. I took a four hour nap (and so did Kevin) after coming home from the VA today and you would think that that would keep me up all night, but I am still so tired. My mom tells me that it's because I'm run down and I suppose she's right.

And speaking of my mom, she now needs to go to the doctor because they found a tumor. I think my family is falling apart. I already told her that she's not allowed to have cancer because we already have enough on our plates. She goes to the docs on Monday so please keep her in your thoughts as well.

And since Kevin is already sleeping again too, I am going to bed.

Day 588 - Jan 7, 2010

I feel much better today. Still not up to par completely, but way better than yesterday.

We did take Kevin to the VA today, but it didn't go over too well. He was in a lot of pain while trying the brace on and they want him to go back to OT before attempting this again. I have to give this some thought because it means we go back up to 4 days a week of therapy. I am really just not sure what to do because the occupational therapist that we were going to told us that the therapy really hadn't been making any difference. Yet when they turned the e-stem on, I watched his hand begin to open.

I just really don't know which way to go. I think I want to talk to the therapists at BAMC before making any decision. They were the ones that worked with him last and they may be more in-tune with the reality of the situation.

And Tracy is coming on Saturday - what a surprise! It's good timing because Kevin will be busy with Ronnie and Tracy and I can get the rest of this house in order.

Poor Tracy and Ronnie. Wait til they see that it is freezing here! It's definitely not vacation weather. We are wearing sweatshirts and winter coats! Yuk!

And now I am going to leave y'all with some photos of Kevin today. The first three are him at physical therapy. The last one is him sitting on the floor checking out his MySpace page. (oh - and if anyone local to Pittsburgh recognizes the therapist - that's where she's from!)

Day 587 - Jan 6, 2010

I still feel really crappy. I didn't even get dressed today. I had Parshall take Kevin to therapy and although he was a little upset about it, he went. Such a far cry from a few months ago when he would NEVER do something he didn't want to do.

Other than that - nothing. I haven't moved from my spot on the couch and Kevin has pretty much just lay in his room all night. I ordered him a pizza for dinner - thank goodness they deliver around here - so at least he had something to eat. I feel kinda bad that I don't have the energy to get up and play some games with him or something, but I just don't.

And I think I am just going to end here and go back to bed. Hopefully my chest doesn't hurt as bad tomorrow because we have an appt at the VA to have Kevin's arm sized for the robotic arm brace that will do electronic stimulation and range of motion. It's our only shot at getting that arm to work. I just need to feel well enough to get us there. It is always so time consuming going there and it tires me out just thinking about it...

Day 586 - Jan 5, 2010

We both thought the movie was really cute. Kevin laughed quite a few times and truthfully, so did I. A worth-see if you like those kind of movies.

I really haven't been feeling well today. Neither Kevin nor Parshall woke me up until almost 2:30 this afternoon and I still didn't want to get out of bed. I also took a nap after we came home from the movie and am actually ready to get to bed now.

On that note, that's what I think I am going to do. Kevin hasn't called my name in about an hour so I might just be able to sleep.

Day 585 - Jan 4, 2010

Did you ever just have one of those uber-productive days? My mom and I got so much done today. We will be having a lot of company this month so we really need to get this house in order. Kevin's best friend, Ronnie, will be coming down on Monday for a week and my whole family will be coming down toward the end of the month for my dad's surgery. Breezy will also be coming then.

So anyway, Kevin allowed Parshall to take him to therapy again and my mom and I stayed home and got the tree taken down and all of the spare bedrooms completely cleaned, organized and ready. I also cooked a nice big meal and even made cupcakes for dessert.

And the best part of all of it - I never left the house today. I just LOVE days like this.

So Kevin was very excited because he learned a few more words today. He learned orange, corn, car, boring and butter. He is really picking up a lot of words, but the problem is getting them to stick. Learning to say them when he needs to. It's something to work on and it's something we always DO work on. We'll get there. I know we will.

And tomorrow we plan to go to the movies. This is the one area where Kevin is still child-like. We are going to see Alvin & the Chipmunks. He just LOVES animated kiddie movies. I do too, but I'm a woman and we like stuff like this, lol. Previous to Kev being wounded, I couldn't pay him to see anything like this. So anyway, that's on the list of fun things to do for tomorrow. Here's hoping it's a good movie!

Day 584 - Jan 3, 2010

We had a pretty good day today. Kevin and I had to run to Lowe's again and get the fencing for the other side of the yard. I had not intended to fence in the side on the road, but after seeing what a difference it makes I knew it would benefit us.

After that we went and purchased a recliner so that I can get him out of his bed. He lays in bed probably 3/4 of the day and I want him to understand that that just isn't the way it is supposed to be. I sure hope this helps. He picked out the one he liked so it should have some effect on his wanting to make the change from bed to chair.

After that we went to my parents' house and visited with them for a while. It was a nice visit - Kevin was in a good mood the whole time, but we couldn't get him to play any games, which was a bummer.

And I had a chance to read the article in the PPG today and it is wonderful! You can all read it here:

Pittsburgh Post Gazette

That Mike is just a fantastic writer. Just as much as Rebecca is a fabulous photographer. What a good team, huh?

And I think I am going to get some scrapbooking in tonight so I will catch y'all tomorrow.

Day 583 - Jan 2, 2010

Today my niece Chrissy and her boyfriend Josh came over and spent the day. Josh got all of my stereos and other electronics fixed and hooked up and it's just such a good feeling having all of that stuff taken care of. Between Josh and our handyman, things are really starting to take shape in the house. It's about time, right?

And Kevin was in a pretty good mood all day too. He was out of his room more than he was in, which was such a treat.

Oh and before I forget - those local to Pittsburgh may want to pick up the Post Gazette tomorrow. I believe my dear Kevin will be on the front page. Mike has written another article on how far Kevin has come in the past 6 months since he and Rebecca have seen him.

I have to tell you that Mike and Rebecca are truly such wonderful people. Out of this horrific experience came the chance to get to know so many new people and I am so happy to consider these two as true friends.

And speaking of Rebecca - check out this link:

2009 Year In Pictures

The photo of Kevin and Breezy has made it as one of the favored images of 2009. (It's my fav too so I can understand this, lol). Anyway, if you click on it you can hear Rebecca talk about taking the photo.

And I will post a link tomorrow so that we can see what the article is all about. I am anxious to see it.

And in other news, I might have had a light bulb moment today. Granted the light bulb might be blown, but we shall see, lol. So anyway, it has been cold here a lot the last couple of weeks. Kevin has also had a lot of pain in his head the last few weeks. I wonder if the two are connected? I think I need to really start paying attention to the weather and to the air conditioner. This may not be it at all, but it's worth looking into.

And now I am going to watch an episode of Cold Case. I just love that show!

Day 582 - Jan 1, 2010

We didn't really do anything at all today so I am just going to skip writing tonight.

Day 581 - Dec 31, 2009

Happy New Year! I trust everyone had a great (and safe) night!

Today we spent quite a few hours at the VA hospital trying to figure out what is causing the pain. Kevin had to get an IV and have a contrast CT scan and it showed he has a small amount of fluid buildup, but we don't think it's causing the pain. I did ask and the fluid is on top of the plate, which is a good thing (I think).

We also had Infectious Disease take a look at the spot on his head and the doctor has no idea what it is. In the last few days it has formed a crust on top of it, so I am considering seeing a dermatologist. I need to talk to Mary about whether that's the route to take or see a burn doctor or what.

In the interim, I have made appts with a new neurosurgeon, but it's not until Feb 10 and I have also made an appt with a neuropsychologist on Jan 29 to help with the depression and also hopefully with cognitive rehab. I look forward to seeing what these two new docs can do for us.

And after all of this, Kevin and I went for a bike ride tonight. It was a beautiful day here today and I am determined to get him exercising to help him tone up and lose some weight. And let's face it - it won't hurt me either, lol.

And now I need to get my macaroni salad made. I want to cook out tomorrow night and mac salad tastes so much better the next day...

Day 580 - Dec 30, 2009

Kevin allowed Parshall to take him to therapy today - YAY! He had two therapies back to back so they were gone about 2 hours or so. Amazing!!! Parshall said it went really well and he was in a good mood when he got home so this may be a new pattern. Not every day, mind you, but it's a start.

And in even bigger news (can you imagine?!) - Kevin has been starting to say sentences. Today he started saying "shut the door" and "open the door". These are major things because it is VERY difficult for him to string words together. Now if we could just get him to understand the difference between open and shut it would make my job easier a couple of times a night. I don't know why, but he just can't comprehend the differences between the words open and shut and the words hot and cold.

So anyway, it wouldn't surprise me if he can talk somewhat well by this time next year. I sure hope so! This is the part that is most frustrating and devastating. Just not being able to be heard when you need to say something has to be so rough. And not being able to understand when someone is trying to tell you something is just as bad!

So that's about it for today. We did run to Lowes again because the handyman is going to install lights in the spare bedrooms as there are none and I also picked up some of the cat doors just so I can move the kitty litter to the garage. I have opted not to put one in Kevin's door because he has been leaving it open a crack and I prefer that than it being shut all the time.

Before I sign off - Long-Time RN - Kevin just decided to keep the cat named Princess. I don't think he has the cognitive ability to think up a new name. He really calls it Meow anyway, lol.

And I THINK he understands the reasoning behind the dieting, but he just doesn't care. He wants food and that's all there is to it, lol!

Day 579 - Dec 29, 2009

Kevin and I are kinda fighting tonight. His eating habits are totally out of control. He weighs almost 180 pounds and I am putting him on a diet. He's not liking it though - not at all - but if I start slow I am hoping it won't be too bad. So after eating two burgers, 2 bowls of ice cream, 4 pop tarts and some peanut butter toast, he isn't allowed to have any more. He is so mad he just stomped to his room and slammed the door. I really hate to do this, but he is putting too much weight on way too fast. It's going to affect everything from his good leg not being able to carry his weight to his sugar level.

Looks like life is gonna be rough for a little bit.

Truthfully, we didn't really do much today. We only have therapy Mon and Wed this week, so I had planned to go to a movie and leave Kevin with his aide. Unfortunately, when I got to the theater the line was a mile long and there was nowhere to park so I just took a drive to an area I had never been before and then came back home. I just plain forgot the kids are all home from school this week so I will wait until next week. There are so many movies that I want to see right now, but my main goal is Avatar in 3D and I am determined to see it.

And that's pretty much it, so I guess I'll go and read some of my book. Before I do though - Tracey in PGH - no, I wasn't aware that a photo of Breezy and Kevin was in the Post-Gazette on Sunday. If it's the picture I think it is, it is my absolute favorite. Mike and Rebecca (reporter, photographer, from the PPG - such wonderful people!) just sent me some of the photos they had taken for the paper and there was an 8x10 of that photo in the pile. I just sat and cried when I opened the envelope and saw it. It's really such a bittersweet photo, huh? It really shows how much the two of them love each other, yet it also plainly shows how severe Kevin's injuries are. Mostly I don't see what he looks like anymore, but sometimes a photo shows it and it always comes as a shock to me. It's kinda like when (once in a while) I catch a glimpse of Kevin out of the corner of my eye and I gasp! I think "Oh my God! Look what happened to my son!" It's all I can do in those moments to hide what I am seeing/feeling. I usually run upstairs and just cry when I see the truth so boldly. Thank goodness I don't see it often, eh? I'd be a blubbering mess. And let's be honest - no matter how lucky Kevin is to be alive, he still had a horrific thing happen to him that has left scars, both physically and mentally, that will never go away.

The poor kid...

Day 578 - Dec 28, 2009

Things returned to normal today. Kevin had speech and physical therapy and he did really well for both. He even did a full hour of physical therapy which I wasn't sure he would be able to do with this ankle. Truthfully, he has been walking the way he was and he hasn't complained at all of any pain in his ankle for a long time now, but I have still been kinda babying it.

And we have an appt on Thursday because Kevin has been having a lot of pain behind his left eye. I don't know if a piece of the filler that they used to fill in his head might have shifted or if it's just something simple or what. He has this dark spot on his head that started out at about the size of an eraser back when we were still in TX and is now up to the size of a quarter. It's very soft there and it's obvious that there is something wonky going on. I just hope it's something minor. I don't know if either one of us have the energy yet to deal with anything major.

But to get to some happier thoughts, Kevin was so excited to get Christmas cards from everyone this year. I know he enjoyed it last year too, but he is so much more aware this year that I was able to take some photos of him opening and reading the ones that the two classes sent him this year. I hope they somehow see how excited he was to read them - and he looked at every single one! He also got quite a few from others and they are all proudly displayed throughout the kitchen/living room. I can't stress enough how much he loved receiving these. Thanks everyone!





And now I am going to go scrap for a little while. Kevin's still raring to go so it will be a while before I get to bed...

Day 577 - Dec 27, 2009

We had a pretty good day today. I took Breezy back to the airport this morning and Kevin was waiting for me when I got home with my nephew and Tyler to go for a bike ride. My sister and mom had stayed with him while I ran Breeze downtown and they were all chomping at the bit to ride.

I did limit Kevin, but it was hard. He just loves to ride his bike and so far he isn't complaining of his ankle. We'll see for sure tomorrow if it hurts though. The last time he had no pain until the next day.

So anyway, here are some pics of the riding:

This one cracks me up. The boys and my sister took off and Kevin turned around and saw that Kim didn't have a helmet on. He made her stop, walk back to the house and get a helmet. She wasn't even allowed to ride the bike back. I laughed so hard.


This one is Kim and Kevin racing to the house:


And here is Kevin winning. Look at the joy on his face!



After this, Kevin and I watched an old movie - "Smokey and the Bandit" and we even both took a nap afterward. Then we just had leftovers for dinner and retreated to our separate spaces.

All in all a pretty nice day!

Day 576 - Dec 26, 2009

Phew! Aren't you glad it's all over with?

Obviously, the last few days have been really hectic. For everyone, I assume. We had all our Christmases and Kevin really scored big this year. An organization located in Western PA called me and offered to buy Kevin something that just wasn't in my budget for him for Christmas (they thought we lived in PA and were kinda stunned to learn we were in FL). I asked for a TV because he only had a small one in his bedroom and wow - how excited he was to get a large flat screen! And what a difference it makes in him being able to read the guide. He has been so excited and now I find we are all laying in his bed to watch movies because the living room furniture we have isn't the most comfortable and his bed is the softest I have ever felt. So really - the gift ended up being for both of us, lol.

Today was really a day of rest and relaxation. Kevin and I did nothing, Breezy did a little bit of running. I scrapped for a while tonight and left the kids to do whatever - it was so nice not to have to run up and the down the stairs a hundred times, lol.

I think I am going to try to get to some of the comments tonight as I am really behind.

Ann Lalli - I am so glad you all are in OH for the holidays. When will you be back down in FL? You MUST all come for dinner! We miss you guys!

Jessica - how is your grandpa doing? I hope he is feeling ok. I also am very sorry to hear about your cat. My thoughts are with you!

Jan - I know, we say soda. How strange is that, huh? I have moved so often that I pick up whatever accent from wherever I am at the moment. I still say pop quite often, but Kevin found it too difficult to say and soda came out rather easily so...

Miss Em - I have thought about PTSD quite often throughout the last few months. It's so hard to distinguish the difference between that and TBI as so many of the PTSD symptoms are also TBI symptoms. Did I read that the only difference is that TBI can cause nauseousness and PTSD doesn't? There's something - just one symptom - that sets one apart from the other. Wait - Mary (our wonderful FRC) - was it you that told me about this? I know we have discussed this...

Wife of a Wounded Soldier - I completely hear everything you are saying about how similar our circumstances are. If I am not mistaken - I believe you emailed me a while back and you are the reason I am seriously considering hyperbaric treatments. I am curious if you feel they still have worked? I keep going back and forth on this. (and to Leslie A. - thanks for the info on this treatment too)

I think I am going to end here and spend some time with Breezy. She has to go back to TX tomorrow so I want to help her get packed.

Day 575 - Dec 25, 2009

I hope everyone had a great Christmas! We did.

I am going to skip again tonight. Sorry for doing it two nights in a row, but it's almost 4am and I think Kevin is finally sleeping long enough that I want to try to get a bit of sleep myself.

I am going to leave you with two pictures of us swimming. I admit it was kinda chilly here today (60ish), but we were all determined to swim on Christmas day as it's something you definitely can't do in Pennsy.

So anyway, the first is Kevin:



This one is Kevin, Breezy, Michael (my nephew), Tyler (the boy across the street), myself and my mom:


And that's about it today. I will share more tomorrow!

Day 574 - Dec 24, 2009

Totally not going to write anything tonight. The kids and I are going to make some popcorn and watch a movie.

Kevin, Breezy and I want to wish you all a very, Merry Christmas!

Day 573 - Dec 23, 2009

Today was such a long day. We actually had our big family Christmas today because my niece has to work both Christmas Eve and Day.

So Kevin and I ran to the airport to pick Breezy up and when we got back we all had pizza and then we opened gifts. After that we decorated Christmas cookies, but by then Kevin was exhausted and he passed on the decorating.

It was really a nice day and it's so nice having my baby home - even if it is only for 4 days!

So I am just going to leave you with a bunch of photos:

This first one is Kevin just being his normal goofball self. He loves this wig and I always tell him if it were blonde he would just look like Garth from Wayne's World. True, huh?


This one is Kevin with Anne (my brother in law's mom):


This one is my dad, Breezy, Michael and Chrissy:


Kevin, my dad and my mom:


And here is Kevin with a "Kevin's Bar" shotglass.


Kevin with his "Boondock Saints" t-shirt.


Breezy - just being silly.


Chrissy, my mom and Breezy:


My nephew Michael was hiding under a mound of wrapping paper and I snuck under with my camera and snapped a shot:


The next 2 are of us decorating cookies. You can tell it's a pretty serious event in our family, lol. (actually - anything pertaining to food is a pretty serious event)


And to all the members of The Herd - check out my dad's sweatshirt! Kevin got a big grin when he saw that on my dad today:


And this is Breezy and I:


And last - Kevin reaping all the benefits of completed cookies!


Sorry for posting so many, but we have family back in PA that we want to share these with.

Day 572 - Dec 22, 2009

First, I gotta tell you that Kevin truly did that scrapbook layout all by himself. He is just like his mama and REALLY anal about exact placements. As I was attaching the photos with glue dots, I didn't do it right and it took forever to get them exactly where he wanted them. It was kinda hilarious.

So I also have to tell you that Kevin said a whole slew of new words in the last few days. I was on the phone the other night (Hi Linda!) and he called me downstairs to say 'star'. He was watching Family Guy and the woman was putting the star on the tree. He just said it - without any teaching involved.

Today he came out with Pap (my dad), I love you, Pap (very hard for him to get words together that are a new combination), eat, cookie, Josh (my niece Chrissy's boyfriend), Dawn (my other sister), Kammerdiener (ok - so that doesn't sound exact, but it's way close enough, lol), lights and hold on. He is trying to repeat things often now and he is even singing as best he can whenever the radio is on and he knows the song. You should hear him sing 'Happy Birthday' - he does it so well! If I could ever find the cord to my video camera, I will take some videos. It's been so long, but I haven't seen it since we moved from the Fisher House.

We did have speech therapy yesterday too, but Kevin was really mad. I guess the therapist spent almost the whole time writing notes. He also talked real slow and Kevin feels he is talking down to him. The one thing I don't do is slow it down. We talk normal and I only emphasize words when he is struggling to learn them. I talked to the therapist after I had Kevin leave the room, and I talked to Kevin on the way home because I know it's how you teach stroke patients, so hopefully they can meet in the middle. I just don't want Kevin to get so mad that he won't go back, kwim?

And lastly, I want to thank everyone for the well wishes for my dad. It's just not good. He has the option of either doing nothing and allowing the cancer to take over, or having surgery knowing that the odds are better that he won't make it through either the surgery itself or the recovery. They don't feel he is healthy enough to handle it.

So it's a decision my father must make and we all need to accept whichever he chooses. I do have to say though that it will be a less rosy world without my dad in it - even if he does drive me nuts sometimes.

Ah well, I don't want to get all maudlin, I'm sure it will all work out...

Day 571 - Dec 21, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight. To be honest, my dad didn't get good news from the surgeon today and I just don't feel like writing. I will leave you with the pic I promised of Kevin's layout though:

Day 570 - Dec 20, 2009

We didn't leave the house again today and it was so nice. My family came down for dinner (they pretty much always come here because Kevin can 'get away' from everyone by going to his room).

Kevin and I scrapbooked for quite a while tonight. If it's sunny tomorrow, I will take a photo of his layout and post it here. Darn if he didn't pick 3 of my favorite pictures too, lol. I sure wasn't saying anything though because it's always so nice to have him out of his room.

And that's really about it. Somehow I hurt my ankle while at Disney and it has been very swollen since then. At times I can barely walk on it and right now is one of those times. It hurts like the dickens. I hope it feels better tomorrow because we finally go back to therapy. He only has speech though so it won't be too bad.

I can't wait to see what his therapist says about all of his new words. He learned 'soda' last night. If I got them all listed, he is up to 52 words. Hurray!!

And for all you cat lovers out there, I am going to leave you with a photo of Kevin with his cat:

Day 569 - Dec 19, 2009

I still am not feeling quite up to par, but I do feel better than yesterday. Kevin is feeling fine now - thank goodness.

We didn't do much today. We had to go to Lowes and purchase the materials to have a fence put up on one side of the house. They are building a house very close to ours and I just don't want our neighbors to 'be' in our yard. I also don't want them watching Kevin while he is swimming, so we are just going to fence that side in.

My sister met a guy that does handyman work and he gave us an excellent price to install it - less than half of what a fence company wanted to do the same job! He is also going to change those light bulbs that I can't reach and do a few other minor things. One thing is that Kevin has pulled the banister out of the wall going upstairs because he actually 'pulls' himself up the steps instead of walks up them. That is one thing that really needs taken care of.

Other than that, we didn't do much of anything today. I am hoping I feel completely better by tomorrow as the next week will be hectic. Breezy will be coming home on Wednesday and we have lots to do both before and after she gets here. Can't wait to see her though!

Day 568 - Dec 18, 2009

It's 3am and Kevin and I are in the midst of a UNO tournament, lol. Neither one of us has been feeling good today, but he is starting to feel better. I'm really not, but I either keep him entertained or I jump up and down 30 times an hour. I am opting to keep him entertained.

So hopefully the tourney ends soon and he will go to bed. In the interim, I am going to skip writing tonight so I can continue playing.

Day 567 - Dec 17, 2009

Kevin has been in a grumpy mood the bulk of today. He was so angry earlier (and I have no idea why?!) that he went into his room, locked the door and barricaded it with his wheelchair. I had to go around to his french doors to get into his room - luckily I left them unlocked earlier today. I do try to respect his privacy, but only to a point. I tell him he can't abuse my trust, but I don't think he understands what that means.

So anyway, I finally grabbed a few of my scrapbooks and we lay on his bed and just looked through them. A lot of the old photos of him and the rest of us while we were younger made him finally smile and even laugh a few times.

I just wish I knew why he was in such a mood today. Who knows...I guess we've all woken up on the wrong side of the bed and maybe that's just all it was. Tomorrow will tell, I suppose...

Day 566 - Dec 16, 2009

We are back home. We got here this afternoon. We didn't do much today. My family came down and I made a huge pan of lasagna and that's about it.

Before I forgot - Linda from the glass plant - can you email me your phone number? My email is lesliekamm@live.com

And Hallie - I agree that we are heading toward a more normal existence.

And I have to say that not for one minute do I ever forget what a miracle it is that we CAN even attempt to do things like go to Disney World. I will always have it in the back of my mind what he was like a year ago or even six months ago. Heck, three months ago I would have never thought to make any plans to go to a resort. Truthfully, he wouldn't have even thought of going himself a few months ago.

But he HAS come so far and we are getting there. I believe the day will come when we can go somewhere like this and have a good time. This was just the first try and I can pretty much guarantee it won't be the last.

And It really is amazing how far he has come. I know you guys don't have a 'clear' picture (mostly because you are only hearing a few parts of our day), but Kevin makes many decisions a day now and he rarely gets overstimulated anymore. It's mostly only extreme events - which is why I thought we might be able to do this Disney thing.

Talking about this just made me realize that I haven't seen the glazed look in Kevin's eyes in a long time. The one that says he is shutting down mentally. Yippee!

But, this is not to say that he doesn't still have confusing moments - he does. And he still struggles with directions and definitely with knowing objects. But when you compare him to a year ago - he is a whole new person. A true miracle!

And we are just going to keep cultivating that miracle. Who knows where it'll go, but I suspect so much more is in the works...

Day 565 - Dec 15, 2009

Well, it didn't work out. I was worried it wouldn't, but Kevin saw the commercial and wanted to come. I thought maybe...just maybe...but no go.

We got here and by the time we got all checked in he was overstimulated. So we rested for a while and then went over to the park. By the time we rode the very noisy bus and then stood in line to get the tickets, that was it. We came back to the room for a long time. At about 8pm, we attempted to go to the Christmas party, but you couldn't even move walking without hitting people so there was just no way with a wheelchair. He was angry because people were stepping on him and kicking him and hitting him so we just got back on the bus and went back to our resort and had dinner there. All total - we spent 15 minutes inside Disney World.

We were supposed to stay another night, but we are just going home tomorrow instead. No sense being here when we aren't going into the park.

So...no pictures.

I have to say that it is very disappointing. We are so close and I had such high hopes that he would do well and we would have a great time. The clerk (when I was returning my ticket because we never used it) told me that the deadest time to come is the last two weeks of November. I am going to keep that in the back of my mind and maybe next year we will try again.

Day 564 - Dec 14, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight. I am just so tired and still am doing laundry and packing things for our trip tomorrow.

Hopefully Kevin will enjoy the Christmas party and I will have lots of pictures for tomorrow!

Wish us luck!

Day 563 - Dec 13, 2009

We finally made it to exchange Kevin's jeans for a larger size. We went to the outlet mall (where we actually bought them) instead of the normal mall as it's open and less hectic. It was a beautiful day here so it was nice being out and about.

I hope this weather stays nice because we have something exciting on target for this week. We are going to Disney World on Tuesday for Mickey's Christmas Party. Military personnel get a free 5 day pass and they also get a massive deal on rooms, so we are going for 2 nights. Kevin is actually really excited. We keep looking at the website and watching the videos and he just can't wait.

This will be our first time doing something like this and I admit I am scared a little. I don't know how well he will handle it - both the crowds and the stimulation around him - but I guess we'll find out. I also don't know how he will like not being able to ride anything. He has been handling things so much better lately so maybe none of it will matter.

Wish us luck. I just want him to have a good time...

Day 562 - Dec 12, 2009

We didn't really do anything today so I am just going to get to a few more questions...

Alison - yes, we will be in Florida for Christmas. I hope to be here for a while (a few months anyway)

Miss Em - you asked if the cat helps Kevin when he is in one of his moods and mostly the answer is "no". Usually Kevin just shuts and locks his door when he is upset and this means the cat can't be in there.

I will say that the cat does sleep with Kevin nearly every night now and she is usually found in his room. Thank goodness. Kevin really does get the cutest smile when she comes in though.

Hallie - I think it's sad that you worked at the same gov't job for 25 years and got your pin in the inter-office mail. Doesn't the government (and corporate America truly) realize that you get so much more out of people when you recognize their effort and time spent? Honestly - where did all the respect go? And Hallie...I congratulate you on your 25 years!

Sgt Social Worker - I checked into Project Victory for Kevin a while ago. I am leaning toward another place, but haven't fully made up my mind yet. Thanks for the website though!

And that's it for tonight. Going to go scrap for a while.

Day 561 - Dec 11, 2009

Today we intended to go to the mall to exchange the jeans we bought Kevin a couple of weeks ago to yet the next size. They were too tight when we got them, we just never had the time to return them.

So we drove over and when it took us almost 20 minutes to drive a half mile around the mall, we just went home. There is no way we are going into that mess, lol.

Other than that, we did nothing today. It was kinda yucky here so it was one of those days to just stay in and veg. I took a long nap this evening - I have just been so tired - and I vaguely remember Kevin getting up and turning the lights off in the living room (where I was napping) and I think I even heard him whisper "I love you, Mom" which is just so dang cute, huh?

I am going to answer just a few more of the questions and then head to bed.

First, thanks to Ida and Long Time RN for the UV Block clothing suggestions. We already ordered a few Solumbra pieces a long time ago and the VA purchased a few items from Dick's Sporting Goods too, but Kevin won't wear any of it. It's been ok to start doing small doses of sunlight to start having his skin adjust to it, but we aren't usually outside for any length of time. We also use 65 spf sunblock too.

Tracey from PGH - I wish I knew how Kevin could handle listening to heavy metal, but in all honesty, he doesn't do it much. He still rarely listens to the music in the car, but he was able to handle the concert in SA? It doesn't make sense to me at all. The only thing is that the concert was outside and maybe that makes a difference? Sometimes sound in an enclosed area is just so much more enveloping.

(oh and Tracey - we got our decorations at Home Depot)

Mary - I thought about taking Kevin to see the concert (TSO), but I asked and he said 'no'. I'm glad now because all of the lights could have caused a seizure. It's one of the things we need to be careful of with the brain damage. Normal lights would be ok, but the strobe and lasers in a close space might be scary.

And I forgot to mention that Kevin has been saying some new words lately. He has learned:

One
Two
Fan

Those three are the fan and the speeds in which he wants it on. I don't allow him to use his fingers to tell me which speed - he has to say it.

Open
Shut
tree

He has been trying to pick up some new words a lot lately. Both Breezy and I tell him that that part of the brain must be reconnecting. One nice thing (and possibly helpful) is that he and Breezy probably talk at least an hour a day on the phone.

Ok - off to bed for me!

Day 560 - Dec 10, 2009

Kevin can now cut his own food! Yay!! When we were in Texas, the therapists there made a list of aids that Kevin could utilize to become more independent. We got them in the mail this week and one of the things was a sharp half circle blade that rocks back and forth. It cuts whatever Kevin wants to eat and he does it all by himself. He was so excited when he could cut his meat tonight and it allows me to finally eat hot food! I need to go online and order another one (or two) and keep one in my purse for those times we eat at my parents or at a restaurant.

Other than that, I don't really have anything to say. My family came down for dinner tonight and they brought the baby. Here are a couple of photos of Kevin with the baby again:




He sure loves kids...

And speaking of kids, Jessica - you asked if your sister's class could make cards for Kevin and we would love that! We had quite a few classes do this for Kevin last year and Kevin enjoyed it. He is much more aware this year than last so I think it will be even more fun for him. Tell her 'thanks' in advance!

And now I am going to play Wii for a little while. It's becoming a family event. When everyone's here - we all play (even Kevin). So I gotta practice as my nephew is pretty good, lol.

Day 559 - Dec 9, 2009

I'm not really going to write anything tonight. I left Kevin for the whole afternoon with his aide and he has been unbearable tonight. I am just too tired to think coherently enough to post anything that would make sense. Sorry!

Day 558 - Dec 8, 2009

Kevin and I finally made it to the movies this afternoon. We went to see "Old Dogs" and we were very disappointed. He wanted to leave 20 minutes into it, but I told him that we had to stay that it would get better. The ending was good, and maybe a few parts in between, but we weren't impressed. (although I did enjoy seeing old photos of John Travolta back when he was Vinnie Barbarino - remember that? Oh that hair...)

Oh and Breezy swears up and down Chris's hand isn't where we think it is, lol. I say photos don't lie though.

I am just going to get to a few more questions because we didn't really do anything else today.

A few of you have suggested Melatonin as a natural sleep supplement. At this point I won't give Kevin anything without the pain management docs input. I will try to remember to mention it to her when we go back in January.

And along those lines - Cathy M, you asked if the docs had ever told us about Kevin's wake/sleep portion of his brain. I didn't know there was such a thing, and I can assure you that we weren't told about anything other than his speech/language center. When Kevin was first injured (while we were at BAMC) I couldn't get the neurosurgeon to look at me, more or less to talk to me. He really didn't tell us anything except that Kevin would never be much of anything, and that was if he woke up.

I am hoping the new neurosurgeon we are planning to go to can give me a little more guidance.

Anne - I would have never known that underguchies was Pittsburghese. That list cracked me up.

Jan - you asked if Kev was a Pittsburgh Penguins fan and the answer is 'no'. He never got into hockey.

Ok - I will get to some more tomorrow night.

Day 557 - Dec 7, 2009

We didn't really do much today. Kevin and his aide Parshall are getting along really well now and I am able to run and do errands pretty much when I need to. He still gets upset when I am gone for long periods of time, but a half hour here or there seems to be ok. This is a baby step toward getting Kevin ready for the rehab center to teach him independence. It will be months yet before he is ready, but the time will come eventually.

And check this photo out:



Breezy met a really nice guy over Thanksgiving and they are 'dating' now. She seems very happy and I am so glad. He is a soldier from up at Ft Hood, but is discharging from the Army next summer. I do think he needs to move his hand a little further to the right though, don't you? LOL!

And here is a daytime photo of our outdoor decorations:



I couldn't get Kevin to stay outside long enough to get a photo with him in it. He is starting to walk again, but his ankle still hurts some and it's just too uneven in the yard for him to be standing long.

So I have a TON of comments/questions to answer and I want to get to a few tonight:

Jodi and Jessica - before I forget - Kevin LOVES his shot glasses! He shows everyone that comes to visit and they are displayed next to his bed on his night stand.

Mel Birdwell - HI! I didn't realize you were still reading! So you had asked if there had been any follow-up after my talk in DC and there was a little bit in the beginning, but when Kevin's surgery went awry, I wasn't really available. There was to be an opportunity for me to speak to the President's advisers, but I think the opportunity was lost due to us not being home for 2 months. It's a bummer, but that's the way it goes, I guess. I trust you and Brian are doing well?

To 10:10 (lol) - I tried a week or so ago to teach Kevin my phone number, but he just couldn't do it. I thought he knew his numbers because he can do addition and basic math, but when I told him to touch a certain number, he had no idea what the numbers were. We worked on it for a little while, but then he got disgusted and it became apparent to me that it wasn't going to work.

Jenna - thanks so much for letting me know about the caregiver's bill passing. For those that want to read about it, read the comment at 8:23am on Nov 25, 2009.

Denver - great idea about putting putty over the light on the smoke detector! Why didn't I think of that...

Alison - I do want to have Botox injected into Kevin's hand the next time he has surgery. I know he would have to go back to therapy once it's injected, but it would be worth it if the hand could stay open and not be clenched so tightly all the time.

And I think this is enough for tonight. I still have MANY more to do, but I'll get to them eventually. Just know that I read every single one and always take what is said into consideration.

You guys are like family by now, lol...

Day 556 - Dec 6, 2009

My sister and I went to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra tonight and it was AWESOME!! This is a must-see show as far as I am concerned. There was a surprise guest too - Joe Walsh came out and played a couple of his past hits and he rocked the house. Truly phenomenal!

My mom stayed home with Kevin while we went. He had her get up like 50 times while we were gone and she looked whooped when we got home. Thanks Mom! I know it's hard, but I appreciate it!

And my mom and sister built all of Kevin's yard decorations today. They look cute. We put them out this afternoon and I will try to remember to take a picture tomorrow night with Kevin out there. Kevin's face was really excited when he was helping us put them up.

And now I am off to bed.

Day 555 - Dec 5, 2009

Princess is finally sleeping in Kevin's room! Thank goodness! Kevin is leaving his door open a couple of inches so that the animal can get out and so far, so good. I did discuss putting in the pet door and he liked that idea. Now I just need to find someone to do it. I need to find a handy-man anyway. There are so many things that need done.

And Kevin got his retirement flag in the mail today. I have to say that I think it should have been presented to him. I mean geez...they send his Purple Heart in the mail and now they send his flag too. Oh well, it's been like that since he got wounded so I shouldn't be surprised. Do you know that we have seen NO ONE from his unit since we came to FL? (with the exception of Rigney at the PH ceremony and he had to pay his own way from Germany!) Not one visitor from the 173rd. I think that's sad. Ah well...I guess it just doesn't matter now, does it?

So I did figure out why the country is so broke. It's paper. Yep. Good old mail from every government agency. I have been in our den for 4 hours now opening mail. I hadn't even gotten it all opened from all the previous trips and now I have the last two months added on to it. Let me tell ya though - NUMEROUS copies of the same letter from the VA, NUMEROUS copies of the same letter from the Army and NUMEROUS copies of the same letter and pamphlets on how to get a job from SSI/Disability. It is no wonder our debt is so high. Between the paper and the postage...unbelievable!

But anyway, I got about half of it done. There is just so much mail in there. A lot of it is just junk from when you buy a house, but you have to open all of it just in case.

And other than that we didn't do much today. We did go to Home Depot to look at Christmas decorations and there I was looking at the pretty angels and the deer lawn ornaments and Kevin spotted these penguins in a blimp and that was it - he had to have it! I sometimes forget that he isn't always 21 mentally because I am seeing the child less often, but then he goes nuts over children's decorations and it reminds me. So yes, we have penguins for our front yard, lol. If I can ever get them put together and placed outside, I will post a picture. I know Kevin will be one excited little boy/man. Hopefully I can get it done tomorrow...

Day 554 - Dec 4, 2009

I am going to skip writing tonight because Kevin and I are playing on the Wii.

He's creaming me, darnit!

Day 553 - Dec 3, 2009

I met with the therapist today to discuss whether OT is really necessary and she pretty much agreed that Kevin is not really going to ever regain any real use of his right arm/hand. We feel that speech and PT are still pretty vital, (although he can't have PT until he can bear weight on that left leg), so we are going to continue those two, but discontinue OT. I hope I'm making the right decision. I worry about taking any chance away, but if I'm honest with myself - there really doesn't seem to be much of a chance.

However, we are going to try to order a robotic arm that will do therapy on it while Kevin is home. This will keep the spasms somewhat in check and who knows...maybe it will make a difference.

So this will take us down to having therapy only 3 days a week for two hours a day. I still would love it if we could get either speech or PT to come to the house as that would free up even more time. But we need to get this retirement really settled first before trying for anything else. I know Kev was supposed to be retired on Sat, but I'm not sure if it really happened? Various people have told me there was a glitch? Who knows...

So I am going to end with some photos. I promise Kevin is dressed in the first one. He's just in his underguchies, lol.




And we decorated our tree today. We took a long drive around our development this evening looking at Christmas lights too. Kevin told me he wants to decorate our house with lights, but I have never done that before. Gonna have to really scope out how high I would have to go up the ladder first. I'm not big on heights...



And now I am hoping to go to bed. I don't think Kevin ever went to sleep last night. I finally went to bed at 7:00 this morning and when I woke back up at 8:30 he was still awake. He didn't nap yesterday and he didn't nap today either, so hopefully he goes to sleep soon. It's already 2am though and he's wide awake so I'm not sure. I just don't know how he does it. I guess it's nothing he's trying to do though - I know it frustrates him to no end when he can't sleep. Poor thing...

Day 552 - Dec 2, 2009

Kevin had a very good day today. Before I get into it though, I want to first ask y'all to (PLEASE) ignore the post from Tim and Beth (the one that just came in tracked back to Indiana PA - where they live). It really doesn't matter to me if they think I am sending Kev away for a break by sending him to that facility that teaches independence - it just shows their ignorance in the situation.

So anyway, today was my dad's birthday and we had a little get together this evening. When they arrived, they walked in with a little surprise. Here are some photos:





Yep. My mom is now babysitting for her neighbor and Kevin's eyes just lit right up when he saw that baby. He always did love kids and I am so glad that that is still true. Luckily this one is a pretty good (quiet) baby so we didn't have any noise issues, lol.

And we went do MacDill today and got his ID all taken care of. One issue down - many more to go.

And that cat. Y'all know who it ended up sleeping with, right? I mean, Kevin keeps his door shut so where else would it end up but next to my head? Yuk. I hope you guys are right and that it will grow on me. (and I will say that I don't hate it - I just don't like it).

And to Sherri L, who wrote me this email:

1st--- NO ANIMALS
2nd---well, ok.....this cute little kitty

ya know whats next don't ya?

3rd----here puppy puppy!!!!!!!

FORGET IT! There will never be a puppy, lol!!! I mighta caved on this one, but that's as far as it goes, :-)

Kevin is loving it though. The cat is leery of the wheelchair yet, but I am trying to get it to (as often as possible) be near Kevin. Kevin has a piece of ribbon that's about 10 foot long that he keeps dangling next to his bed to keep the cat entertained in his room. I told Kev that if he wants it to sleep with him he would have to leave his door open at night. We'll see how that goes. Kevin can't tolerate any light (he even wanted me to take the batteries out of the smoke detector because of the little green light - and yes, he knew to take out the batteries - but I did draw the line at that). So anyway, I doubt he'll do it because there are all kinds of little lights in the kitchen off of his room, but we'll see. He does really enjoy that cat...

As to the name, Kevin says just to call it Princess after all. At first he said "Steelers", but he changed his mind. He calls it meow anyway. He says "MOM...meow, meow, meow" which is him asking where the cat is, lol.

And before I go, thanks everyone for all of the advice on the cat issue. I'll make this work...

Day 551 - Dec 1, 2009

A couple of things happened today. First, I left Kevin with his aide for over 4 hours and went shopping. I did the bulk of our shopping and it felt great to get away for a few hours. I would love to do this at least once a week, but I have said I would so many times and I never force myself to go so we shall see...

Second, and y'all better sit down for this one - I got Kevin a cat. To those of you that know me, I'm sure you have each grasped your chest in near heart failure, but I assure you - I did it. Here's a picture as proof:



It doesn't really have a name yet. They called it Princess at the shelter, but I just can't see Kevin having a cat named Princess. I think we are going to have to name it one of the words Kevin can say so I am guessing "NO", hehe. It's what I have been screaming at it all night so it probably already thinks that's it's name anyway, lol.

So anyway, it's a fully grown cat, already litterbox trained and very affectionate. Kevin's face just lit up like a Christmas tree when I walked into his room with it, so it's probably worth it (I will agree or disagree after it's been here a little bit longer, lol)

And third, I made an appointment with Kevin's therapists for Thursday and we are going to discuss what he really needs vs what we have been doing all this time.

I agree with everyone that a change needs to be made. We have to start having some fun, but first we need to have the energy to do so. This means eliminating some of the things on the list and only doing what we need to do for a little bit.

I guess we'll see what the therapists have to say and go from there...

Day 550 - Nov 30, 2009

Well the surgeon's appt didn't come off as great news. (Ann - we got Dr Bernard; one of the guys you mentioned!). The doc told us that Kevin has multiple fractures and he figures that some (if not all) of it had never healed from the original date of injury.

Anyway, he said that Kevin's ankle bone has about 1/3 of the bone fractured off of the rest of the bone. There are also many other smaller fractures. Any of these can be causing pain and he suggested that we just let it go for a few weeks and see what happens.

He told us to let Kevin walk and do whatever because no amount of staying off of it is going to fix the issue. He told us that Kevin may feel better and not need surgery for a long time yet. It's really all about how Kevin can handle the pain.

BUT - Kevin will need surgery eventually. It may be next month, it may be next year, but it will happen someday.

When that day arrives, he would like to go in and see if he can clean up the fractures using various screws. If that doesn't work, he will just have to fuse the ankle bone to the shin bone. That would mean that Kevin would not be able to bend his ankle at all. He did tell me that it would affect his walk a little bit, but not much.

Damn! This is really not what we wanted to hear. Kevin was so upset when he heard the word surgery and I don't blame him. This is all just so exhausting.

When I think of all the things we still need to do I just want to sit here and cry. Here is a list of things I can think of (just off the top of my head):

possible foot surgery
facility to teach Kev independence
see new neurosurgeon
see new neuropsychologist
put Kev through detox
need to fix his eye surgically
burn scar laser treatments
looking into hyper baric treatments
find a cognitive rehab program
botox in his hand
(and let's not forget our daily regimen of therapy, therapy and more therapy)

Every time I formulate this little plan in my head on when to do certain things, all kinds of crap comes up emergently.

I just wish we could just live. Just go about our days like normal people. I think it's one of the reasons Kevin is always depressed here. When we are in Texas, our schedule is lighter and we can sometimes do things that are fun. Here, we are just too tired. There are so many therapy appts and doctors appointments that we are too exhausted to do anything else - even on the weekends.

Frankly, I think I just need to sit down and figure out our priorities. Like OT - is it really worth it? It's been 18 months today since he was wounded. The arm is no better now that it was. He still has basically no control. So why are we spending so much time trying to fix it? Really?

I think we need to find some time and energy to live a little. Not just exist for doctors visits and therapy appointments...