tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post5838129112562704241..comments2023-11-02T11:00:31.919-05:00Comments on Mended Wings: Day 827 - Sep 3, 2010Lesliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04099407836145699943noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-76719614558709711912010-09-04T21:53:02.227-05:002010-09-04T21:53:02.227-05:00I'm so sad that Kevin has to go through all th...I'm so sad that Kevin has to go through all this and that you and Breezy have to see it. I'm praying that someone will come through and help Kevin work through his grief. Hopefully Mary will have some contacts that can help. Even if it was just one TBI veteran who came to your house and talked with Kevin. Just an idea. I know you'll find a solution and my thoughts and prayers are with you! Take care of yourself.Jessicahttp://wildrosestamper.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-58719542470428004182010-09-04T17:20:14.807-05:002010-09-04T17:20:14.807-05:00((Hugs)) A tough time for all of you. Thoughts and...((Hugs)) A tough time for all of you. Thoughts and prayers for you all.Long-time RNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301386934882781722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-3234695528816873442010-09-04T15:38:06.449-05:002010-09-04T15:38:06.449-05:00I can only pray for you. My heart is with you both...I can only pray for you. My heart is with you both.<br />Jannabearlythrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12009129776248537438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-10274844174661864312010-09-04T14:09:34.357-05:002010-09-04T14:09:34.357-05:00Leslie, I can't possibly know how difficult th...Leslie, I can't possibly know how difficult this is for you and Kevin. But I think this is a stage of "grieving" that he will have to pass through. I know we often think of grief being associated with death, but we grieve over a lot of things as you well know. And I do think there are "stages" of this type of grief as well. Grief/anger for what is lost, what once was and what will never be. <br /><br />I hope today is a better day for you both!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03039064567602279862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-68875810461419375122010-09-04T13:55:34.318-05:002010-09-04T13:55:34.318-05:00Leslie,
If Kevin is becoming more aware of his si...Leslie,<br /><br />If Kevin is becoming more aware of his situation then what you are dealing with maybe more than just an anger at the waiting for his head to look right. <br />You maybe dealing with one or more stage of PTSD. Make a phone call to the your co-ordinator and see if you can get him in to see a group of Wounded Warriors that are going through this same thing.<br />I know that he may not be able to express himself very well right now but these guys have been there and done that and can help him more than you think they can.<br />Sometimes it maybe just hearing another Warrior saying the same things that he is feeling to know that he is not alone.<br />Sometimes hearing what you have been saying "that he needs to wait until the doctors say he is ready for that step" from a senior Warrior will reach him when "Mom" words just go in one ear and out the other. A senior Warrior seems to carry more wait than a Mom does in many Warrior's eyes.<br /><br />Now I'll go find my box of kleenex's had have a good cry for you and Breezy.<br /><br />Life sucks and until it gets flushed down the drain it will more than likely just be a pain in the back-side.<br /><br />Miss Em<br />Austell, Ga.Miss Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14441825597709556390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-10865237041230473062010-09-04T13:22:22.891-05:002010-09-04T13:22:22.891-05:00thinking of you three today and aching for you. I...thinking of you three today and aching for you. I hope that his anger is a stage, and a stage with a path through ...<br /><br />But Oh! How hard and hurtful and exhausting for you, even if he doesn't mean to ... you (and Breezy) are there for him so constantly. It has to hurt, even if it is not his "fault" ... and I know you were already struggling with the endlessness of the path.<br /><br />Best wishes, and standing with you on the west coast.<br /><br />karenkarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15428202747324083680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-30413013258513028662010-09-04T10:26:59.704-05:002010-09-04T10:26:59.704-05:00Also crying with you....and hoping for things to g...Also crying with you....and hoping for things to get better. It does seem that the awareness is a really good thing, and that his anger and upset while heartbreaking, is also totally appropriate. It is like he has not been able to go through the regular stages of grieving for what has happened to him. How could he? Poor Baby. It has been one thing after another for all of you and it does suck. It is wrong and unfair and it sucks and you all deserve to say and feel that. But being Kevin, and being you, I have no doubt that you will get through it. Hopefully as he continues to recover physically from the surgery he can get some therapy for the emotional stuff. Is that something that has been available but that he has not been able to take advantage of due to his medical status? It should be right? <br /><br />Hugs from California.<br />Lisa DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-82417692899895368002010-09-04T09:45:00.658-05:002010-09-04T09:45:00.658-05:00You have probably already tried this but, www.dcoe...You have probably already tried this but, www.dcoe.health.milCathy Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15527959960002022488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-47507151967887272342010-09-04T09:25:55.040-05:002010-09-04T09:25:55.040-05:00Oh gosh, just broke my heart reading your post!
I...Oh gosh, just broke my heart reading your post!<br /><br />I know you have tried, but, again, aren't there some support groups (not necessarily programs) out there to help with these terrible feelings of loss for you and/or Kevin? Would Walter Reed (or affiliates) have some suggested groups close to where you live? Sorry if you have already covered this, but I just keep thinking there is something out there that you/we are missing. There HAS to be something...<br /><br />Hugs to you and your hero son,<br /><br />CathyCathy Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15527959960002022488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-55158787129988401972010-09-04T07:23:40.503-05:002010-09-04T07:23:40.503-05:00awww,Leslie, my heart breaks reading this post. I ...awww,Leslie, my heart breaks reading this post. I do not have words or suggestions or advise. I do know what you are going through as I face a husband everyday in excruciating pain who wonders if life is worth it... like you, I cry right beside him. Maybe this is just a down in the cycle. Maybe he'll need some help - be it medication or therapy, which I know would be difficult. The good thing - it's 2010 and not 1960 - the medical world is full of solutions. The problem? It's driven by the caregiver to speak up, to be persistant, to be knowledgable and to do lots of research. I'm sure there is somewhere (maybe in the private sector) who has a solution. <br />My thoughts and prayers are with you. <br />HallieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-33222083161609716582010-09-04T07:12:02.404-05:002010-09-04T07:12:02.404-05:00Hope Kevin feels better today...
A.Hope Kevin feels better today...<br />A.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6815867650533403423.post-51831239207111304082010-09-04T06:55:51.653-05:002010-09-04T06:55:51.653-05:00I hope today's a better day.
Hugs to you!
Kat...I hope today's a better day.<br />Hugs to you! <br />Kathy in IAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com